Things are moving along pretty well. We had our first DIY counseling session Fri night. We started with childhood stuff and both of us came away with a better understanding of where each other is coming from. BF says thinking about this stuff and other things he's read in the books is really good and doesn't understand why people don't discuss them before problems develop. I said other people do talk about it, just not us. He's not convinced or at least thinks no one he knows ever has these conversations.
The rest of the weekend was good. We didn't have any specific plans so I made dinner reservations at a sushi place. I went to the farmer's market with a girlfriend, then later BF came over and we walked to girlfriend's house and the three of us went out to lunch. Dinner was nice, excellent yellowtail. Sunday we slept in a bit and went to a nursery to pick out plants for the back yard. BF went to play golf with a coworker and came back for dinner.
We talked more on Sunday night about my tendency to plan and his to wing it. It boils down to the fact that I enjoy planning and he doesn't so he's happy to go along with whatever I come up with. I explained that I'm never sure if he likes the activities or not because he says everything is "fine" so I don't trust that he'll ever voice a dissenting opinion. Plus that was one of the main things he cited in why we weren't compatible, we didn't have any of the same interestes. Now I know that we're not supposed to believe what they say when they're in the fog, but I just can't shake that one. I asked if we could have a weekly date night and take turns planning so I don't feel like I'm forcing my interests on him. He agreed so we'll see how that goes.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
