I don't consider him to be a BF because there is no sexual contact - no kissing, no caressing, no sex. To me that is the difference between dating and being friends. Currently I have no desire to do any of those things with him and I'm not sure I ever will again. Right now we are only friends. Friends who happen to not be dating other people.
I understand what you're saying about putting myself in the right frame of mind to move forward.
Pondering...
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g