My experience... the less you know about that chit the better.... it sucks... that part....
but it's like child birth..... if we all remembered the pain we would never do it again.....
The pain does lessen, not as gut wrentching and you won't think about it as much.
When we first got back together it was on my brain about 95 percent of my waking hours..... I would say it's down to about 5 percent the thoughts are less intense and are here and gone.
It takes time to stop dwelling on it. Sometimes it would seem like I would get stuck into some kind of obsessive thougths about but being aware of that helps and know that you just have to wait it out and keep moving forward.... that was nice that he text you.... his way of checking in .... another circle made!
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too