Totally agree... he already told her... now he wrote her.... now she's a stalker.

My H OW tried to email him to the secret email... which I had forgotten about till about a month later.... 8 letters... none where open the email. I read them all and it was kinda funny, sad and pathetic but I knew by her tone there had been NC too.

Look PH you've been reading here for months about how to save a relationship etc.... he is new to the plan. he doesn't understand the verbage... he's a baby with this yet... you have to lead the way....

BTW... I gave my H 1 book after he came back called "after the affair" ... he never read it... I took at the time he wasn't really trying but that was not the truth.... it still sits in the nightstand and he hasn't read it but has done other things to show he was all in. So don't hang your hat on what YOU would do or need... his are different from yours.


M:47
M:18
D16, S19
1st S 1/08-5/08
Reconciled/May 7, 2008
Left again Nov 9, 2009
I Filed: Nov 17, 2009
Final: April 14, 2010
EX walked away from kids too