Swimming against the current - PH in piecing

[pearlharbr]

Question:

Tonight is the last day of bowling league. Long time readers will remember that xBF and OW were in the league together but on different teams. I insisted that he quit before I would consider giving him another chance and he did quit. However I just found out that he didn't exactly quit, he just started making excuses for not going.

Anwyay, he told me that he is playing in a poker tourney at his apartment complex tonight and asked if I wanted to come over and watch. I declined and explained that I have a ticket for a concert tonight. He didn't seem phased by my explanation and we chatted about the show I'm seeing.

I'm wondering if I should ask him if it's important that I come over and spend the evening with him if it's going to be hard emotionally (OW has asked if he is coming to bowling because she wants an explanation of what went wrong in their R so she can have closure. ).

On one hand I want to be supportive. On the other hand, I do already have (not cheap) plans. We have spent time together the past three days. I do want to maintain some distance but not appear cold.

And he did bring the letter over last night. It says he is choosing to be with me for love and not out of duty or guilt; he does not want and will not respond to any future contact from her; and he will not keep anything from me including the contents of this letter. Printed and signed it in front of me and sealed the envelope, left it for me to mail.