Swimming against the current - PH in piecing

[pearlharbr]

Ah, that's the difference. xBF is all talk and no action, your W is action and no talk. I have been saying all along that I am looking for actions from xBF to prove to me that he is serious about trying to work through this. His action was to see OW and not tell me.

So stuck, what am I supposed to do with this knowledge that he lied to me and continues to see her? I know she is not the root of our problems, but I have learned through all this that it is a dealbreaker for me.