Sam, you (and Puppy) have hit the nail on the head. I'm an all or nothing type of gal emotionally speaking. Well, in a lot of things actually. I had a REALLY hard time detaching and never was able to accomplish it. When I decided I was done, I was done and that was it. Now it would come in handy but I still don't know how to do it.

I was talking to Jon earlier tonight and I was overcome with another wave of doubt and uncertainty about what I want. This not knowing is killing me. I just wish I was leaning one way or the other.

Jon gave me a talking to and said I need to fish or cut bait: either commit to working on the relationship or start packing and leave. I'm just paralyzed with indecision. So we thought maybe a cooling off/wait and see period would be a good idea.

Which is what you guys have already said. I know.

But I think I will talk to xBF about starting counseling as soon as possible. We can still hang out and do fun things but I really need to start talking about all this stuff with him and I just don't think we can do it on our own.

If you love somebody, set them free.
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