So what I have here is

1 one day out of the blue, H claims does not love me, doesn't know why, when pushed claims it's because I moan if he forgets stuff from shops, exaggerates past arguements.
2 week be IDLY stays out til 5.30am with work mates

3. I find lots of texts to one particular work mate
4. Find viagra in is jeans
5. Texts all the time

hmmmm, think I've woken up

Not going to cause a scene

H 36 2nd marriage
me 32 1st marriage
no kids