For the spouse who has Walked Away

[HOPEFULinCALI]

May I ask you what changed your mind to want to go back to your H? And, how long have you been S?

I have been asked this question before. The following was my response.

"Like most I thought being away from my husband would solve my problems. I never stopped believing he was anything but amazing, still I didn't think we could overcome the barriers to communication we had faced since the beginning of our marriage.

A few things contributed to changing my mind.
1. My religious convictions.
2. My experience with separation opened up my eyes to that no one is perfect and that I actually had a good marriage with an amazing guy who adored me that just needed some work (I hope he doesn't have to have an affair or experience the single life to figure that out.)
3. I realized that people give up to easy on marriage and I would be exchanging one set of problems for another.
4. Marriage is about so much more than being head over heals in love or having a great sex life. A true committment is soldiering through the tough times and coming out a stronger couple."

We were S from Nov 06-Jul 07 and then again from Dec 07-present.

You fit the forum and I did post to you in another forum. As a WAW who became a LBS I felt that my sitch was a little out of the ordinary so I wanted a forum where the few of us could discuss out sitch. From talking to my DB coach there IS a bit of a different approach because I was a WAW. I hope too that it can provide some insight in what WAS's are thinking and feeling. I do also welcome advice or questions from LBS's. My particular question for the LBS's has been what would it take for you to take back your WAW.