Thank you for posting your success, Success. Your situation shows me that not all is lost just because the D is final. Rather than hijack your thread, I'll start my own and hope for support and encouragement in my journey.

Thanks again for posting your fantastic story.

Letting Go Tom; JUST DO IT!
previously hopeful_husband

my A: Fall 05
W found out: Feb 06; separated immediately
W pursued D, final 7/11/07

me: 43
XW: 34
joint legal/physical custody