Another thing I just thought of...if part of the healing process is to stop all contact with the spouse, how is it handled if they contact you? And do you listen to them if they're trying to tell you what's been going on in their lives or work or whatever? Or do you just tell them that what they're doing doesn't interest you anymore?

Just wondering because I think it would hurt me to just listen to my W tell me about her life (especially if it's stuff like how happy she is). I'd just rather say I have somewhere else to be and leave.

So the question is, what if this is part of their wanting to reconnect on some level with you? How do you know the difference?

NO, this is not what I think is happening in my situation, but how would I know if it is?

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She moved out very soon after, and is filing for divorce very soon.