YES OM she will be travelling with lives out of country, though it seems she may also be having an EA with a local OM. Trying to detach yes and focus on what I need to do. Working on it but it’s hard.
It is extremely hard, no doubt - one of the the most difficult things you'll deal with in your life. So...don't beat yourself up over every little mistake - we've all made them - but make sure you're trying your hardest to work towards where you need to be.
In terms of the foreign AND local OMs...my now-ExW got together with OM2 after things blew up with OM1 even before she moved out, so also try not to focus on a particular OM because it's ultimately about your W, not them. Again...easier said than done. I know, trust me.
Originally Posted by Rockon
I have scheduled an IC session the first week she is away. I plan to really enjoy my life during that time.
Good! IC and GAL. Perfect.
Originally Posted by Rockon
I don’t want to drive her to the airport but am considering picking her up on return if she asks - not sure.
DO NOT, under any circumstances, pick her up from the airport after a trip she went on to cheat on you. DO NOT offer to pick her up afterwards to "be nice". This shouldn't even be a consideration. Time to grow a backbone. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. Be a man and command respect - do not try to curry favor from anyone, especially your wife, who is treating you with such disrespect!
Originally Posted by Rockon
Other that that, I’m don’t know what actions to take- open to suggestions.
How about pack up any remaining belongings she has in the house and leave them on the porch for her to pick up? Then go dark/no contact. That means nothing. No dinners, no stop ins, no calls or texts. Even if she reaches out about divorce business..."please contact my L".
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
Whew!! Stark and good for me to see typed out in black and white. Truth is hard to take but I have been craving truth honesty and clarity so yeah!!
You'll get there, Rockon. You've made some mistakes but everyone does...you're also doing a lot very well. You need to understand it's a mindset. Starting working on "flipping the power". Act as if. Instead of being scared and worried about what W is going to do - which you can't control - start KNOWING that YOU are the prize and she is crazy to lose you. That you're going to have an awesome life whether you let her back or not. The sooner you understand those concepts the sooner you'll feel great.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
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Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
