I've been through all that you say (including getting blown off on my birthday and father's day) so trust me when I tell you this...you will be fine and there is life and love after this chapter you are going through now ends. You are simply moving through at your own pace and process the space between chapters.
One thing I would share with you that helped me was "stop grieving over what you lost and start living on what you've got left. You can make it on broken pieces."
Keep your head up and moving forward.
Me:34 W:40 D1:4 M:7 T:8 BD:3/18 D Final: 7/19
Re: My story, trial separation for now, Part 2
#2871898 11/12/1906:23 PM11/12/1906:23 PM
a lot of the people who reconcile here don't stick around. The people needing help do.
I'm glad you're out of the corporate world. I couldn't do it, especially in the big city where you are.
I never cared about doing anything for my birthday until my birthday when my W was gone. I know how that feels Steve. She still cares or she would be 1000 miles away by now.
Nobody knows where your sitch is going, not you, not your W, not us.
Face your fears the best way you know how. Ultimately, you will overcome those fears. You're a smart guy, you know women want what you have to offer, you know there are more out there, you know you can do this again if you have to.
I think your GAL needs to involve some social events. Are you dressing well when you go out? Smiling, having fun, talking to all women? I think an ego boost from women might just help assuage your fears. It changed my mindset drastically last August.