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I have a question: If you don't keep him involved in the children's lives (e.g. a brief phone call once a week), isn't that going to push him further towards the OW, and have him involved in HER young son's life? That's my concern. Our S is 9 and our D is 13. The OW's son is 2 or 3 and my H has started picking up her son from daycare because the police dept. finally separated my H and the OW. (He is a police officer, she works dispatch.) He already replaced me with her; I am afraid he is replacing our son w/ her son.

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What a GREAT THREAD THIS IS !!!!!!!! THANK YOU !


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Great thread and perfect timing. Thank you.

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This is good, and maybe should be in the "Resources" group.

If I knew how, I would do that...Simon, Simon, where art thou, Simon???

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Bumping this for farmgirl !


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Thank you--I am going to print the advice, and reread it every day!

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I have done a lot of these things too. Husband just announced OW and bomb a month ago (there was a mini episode in fall and I think he has been depressed entering MLC for about a year). When I learned about her I was devastated and I started doing a lot of the things suggested in this thread. They work! Just yesterday H admitted that he was very shocked by how well I seemed to be taking all of this and that it actually bothered him a little. Said he thought I would not be handling so well and even though he knew he should be happy I was doing okay it was troubling. I thought that was a good thing! Here is a funny thing I tried that I have a feeling really spun his head around...you'll laugh, but I whistled in the shower loudly when I knew he was in the next room -- cheery/happy songs. No man who just announced an OW expects you to be whistling a happy tune in the shower. Even if he didn't care, I felt like he did and I enjoyed it!


Me 32/H 32
M 3yrs/T 8 yrs
0 kids and 1 dog
Bomb 5/15/08 - wants to end it to pursue OW
Seeing OW and moving out 7/08
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