Hello. Well, here I am on the last day of my LRT...and tomorrow the 4th of April is my "coming back into some light day" after 9 wks. of "black." And, I'm still trying to make some sense of it, and no one added to my threads, so here I am scanning and I find this. Yes, just what I needed to hear.
Why I believed in this DB stuff is: it works whether things work with the partner or not, the DBer still wins. So, I thought okay...I have nothing left to lose, and everything to gain.
So, thanks JJ for putting it so well, and SG for the thread, and for all the poster's remarks.
JJ, Thanks again for the past posts to me. I've had a pretty depressing week and am now I'm on the upswing and I reread this post again. I need to read it everynight!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It helps me remove the focus I place on myself for being bad and not worthy (which I know is not true) to "hey let him screw up and see that it wasn't me that caused it." I haven't been available to be the scapegoat for a while now for him, but I have been playing it out far too much in my mind this week. Later, Sweet Orange
quote:People get so caught up in their drama they forget that Michele has a wicked sense of humor! And she give that upbeat spin on techniques all over her writing. Has anyone tried wearing groucho glasses while discussing something touchy?
I personally have 4 pair (in the event of violent rip-off and step on by aggrevated spouse, I have complete backup--redundancy is everything!
I haven't used them yet. Now that I'm back with my W and working on our M, I'm holding them in reserve for our first post-reuniting fight. I'll let everyone know the outcome, either from here (at home--yeah!) or from the Paradise Valley Hospital's computer.... Done