Stating my needs is definitely different for me, we didn’t have much communication pre-BD. I tried to state what I thought we needed to help get past this without any anger or spite. I also want her to not think I am being a pushover, even though it honestly seems that way. I said that if the best she could do right now was to move on like nothing happened then I would go along with it, albeit with doubt that it is going to work out in the end. She definitely fears judgement, she has started numerous times that she doesn’t think I’ll ever forgive her completely. I simply say, every time, that I choose to forgive her yet I won’t forget it. She fears that it will be something I’ll always bring up if I am angry with her. My answer to that is that I have no desire to spend the rest of my life being angry about it and using it against her. Why would I want to stay together yet keep bringing if up, she would obviously not hang around long. I am mostly at peace with how things are for now. I fear that once my father in law gets better,🤞🏻, she may become “unhappy” again. Time will tell. I have been staying busy taking care of the in laws property and helping her mom get by.
Glad to hear things are looking up. hope you find happiness after all you’ve been through. I forgot about the truck again, dang it. I’m getting on Reditt as soon as I post this! Thanks for the words of wisdom as always.
