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I'm going to worship services 3 days a week. Seems excessive but it really helps my state of mind.
I'm going to various art studio groups.
Lunches with at least two friends a week.
Check-ins with a couple of depressed friends at least once a week. I know that doesn't sound like a lot of fun but I love them and like to cheer them up.
I'm talking to my dad about buying my own motorcycle (He's the motorcycle guru)
My art
Currently on my way to a friend's birthday party.
Next weekend I'm taking an overnight out of town with another friend.


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Sounds great. Good to have both fill up your tank activities and ones to build up/serve others.


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sounds good.

in addition to keeping busy, what are you reading and doing to change the person you were at BD?

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A box full of darkness.
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I'm reading a book on God's love and rereading my notes from DR/DB frequently.
I read a book on respecting my husband in marriage which was eye opening.
To continue to change I'm slowing down and thinking about my words and actions through a lens of showing love to everyone, rather than allowing every circumstance to make me frustrated.


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Rejoice, how are things going?


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Nothing new to report.
I'm still doing my best to GAL and he's still doing whatever he wants and not making this "decision" he claims he's making.


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Hello R

Good for you. Keep focusing on you and living life.

H may be struggling greatly with working on his decision, or he may be running from it, or something in between. Leave him to it. Not your circus, not your monkeys.

Personally, I suspect H is wracked. The less ammo you provide the more he has to look at things. Guilt, regret, and such are near impossible to run from. Especially in the still dark of night while laying in bed. It’s when one’s demons come out to play.

Keep giving time and space, and being pressure-free.

How was the overnight trip? Nice hotel? Good food? Fun time?

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The overnight trip was nice! The food and the company were great.
We saw a comedy show which was a lot of fun.
When I returned I didn't provide much for details to H about my time there, and he ended up having a cow about how he wants me to tell him more things more often. Ha ha smile


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Typical entitled WAS.


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You handled H perfectly. smile

Glad you had a great time.


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