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No kisses. Sorry to disappoint.. No rush..


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See this is why I don’t get why people here we’ll one less hate 3% man. It gives a complete roadmap i how to handle dating.

I let G handle this one.

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It’s a roadmap of how YOU handle dating. I guess you are the only one successful at it?

When do you kiss? When it feels right. When do you have sex? When it feels right. How many dates to have per week per amount of days? Whatever feels right.

Mach also isn’t doing the OLD thing. It’s a neighbor, he knows her already, and they are kind of hanging out getting to know eachother . Why put “rules” on that?

The more rules we put on things, the more pressure.

But if the big stud muffins play book is the only
One that works, according to him, you might want to follow it

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Originally Posted by Ginger1
It’s a roadmap of how YOU handle dating. I guess you are the only one successful at it?

When do you kiss? When it feels right. When do you have sex? When it feels right. How many dates to have per week per amount of days? Whatever feels right.

Mach also isn’t doing the OLD thing. It’s a neighbor, he knows her already, and they are kind of hanging out getting to know eachother . Why put “rules” on that?

The more rules we put on things, the more pressure.

But if the big stud muffins play book is the only
One that works, according to him, you might want to follow it
I guess I should have expected that because it fits your agenda.

BTW they are guidelines.

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You called your roadmap.

Fits my agenda? I don’t even know what that even means.

I really don’t even care. If your way is the right way, I am not even going to debate it. Like I tell everyone, ignore me, follow LH. He’s the guru.

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Originally Posted by Mach40
No kisses. Sorry to disappoint.. No rush..
No rush, but two bottles of wine alone at her place...make a move at some point or get friend zoned.


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OMG it's not about being a guru. Tell me one woman who doesn't want a man to go for the kiss when she's feeling it. When he doesn't she feels rejected.

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Originally Posted by LH19
OMG it's not about being a guru. Tell me one woman who doesn't want a man to go for the kiss when she's feeling it. When he doesn't she feels rejected.

Maybe he didn’t know if she was feeling it?

He’s been out of the dating game for quite some time

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Or maybe neither of them were feeling it since they’ve known each other in a neighbor capacity so this is a new role to explore. Maybe they were both feeling it and too shy to move. Who knows? Mach, good for you for putting yourself out there. Everyone has to move at the pace they feel good about and not everyone wants to rush to the lightning round. Sounds like you did fine and enjoyed yourself and if so and you are interested, see her again. Odds are, assuming she’s a mature and rational grown woman, she’ll give you plenty of signals when she is ready. You should just be enjoying the experience at this time and not feeling pressure for anything more. Your timeline is your timeline so don’t compare it to anyone else’s.


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Originally Posted by Ginger1
He’s been out of the dating game for quite some time
That's why guidelines are helpful.

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