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SteveLW #2937821 09/22/22 10:44 PM
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Originally Posted by SteveLW
If you're a Bible reader I'd add Job to the list.
And keep reading Paul's 1st letter to the Corinthians on love. That says it all. Clear direction.


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"There's something awfully screwy going on around here!"

Walk along the side of the road with a bag & you're gonna end up with a lot of trash!
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Originally Posted by bttrfly
Originally Posted by SteveLW
If you're a Bible reader I'd add Job to the list.
And keep reading Paul's 1st letter to the Corinthians on love. That says it all. Clear direction.

W did Text me “I can tell you’re trying really hard to be patient and kind….” In an apology text to me. And I was reflecting this week on 1 Cor 13:4 love is patient love is kind

This week has gone quite well all things considered. Last night W invited me over to have dinner with her and her mom and I accepted. It was quite lovely. Please any conversation. More eye contact from W and she showed interest in me. W wanted to spend some time visiting with me after dinner - I excused myself politely thanking them both for having me.W complimented me on my appearance and commented that I seemed to be healthy.

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So if you would have declined stating you had plans what do you think W would have been thinking about the entire time?

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Good point

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Everything about successfully DBing feels wrong and is hard for the LBS. Thats why most people don’t successfully bust their divorce. To bust a D timing is very important. The good news is that if you stick with your changes and make the improvements eventually you won’t care anymore and move on. Unfortunately as sad as it sounds that is when you are most likely to reconcile. You will have an even playing field and you will become a person of value and that makes you someone worth having. That’s what makes people feel good.

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It seems like I am having a hard time getting it and implementing it but your challenges and insights are helping me - arrrrrgh!

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Originally Posted by Rockon
It seems like I am having a hard time getting it and implementing it but your challenges and insights are helping me - arrrrrgh!
So let me ask you this Rockon, what did you think that was going to happen at this dinner?

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Originally Posted by LH19
So let me ask you this Rockon, what did you think that was going to happen at this dinner?

I had the same question....

This verse was a rock for me. to really understand how I fit into it, was moving for me...

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

For everything there is a season,
and a time for every matter under heaven:
a time to be born, and a time to die;
a time to plant, and a time to pick what is planted;
a time to kill, and a time to heal;
a time to break down, and a time to build up;
a time to weep, and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
a time to seek, and a time to lose;
a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
a time to tear, and a time to sew;
a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
a time to love, and a time to hate;
a time for war, and a time for peace.








This is her time.....

It can also be YOUR time if you let it....

What does it mean to you for it to be her time ??

Your time ??

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LH and Mach

For the Dinner, we had scheduled a conversation to work on something that we needed to do for our extended family and then she invited me for dinner while we were having the conversation . That conversation itself was necessary for us to have about important decisions for us to make and it went well we were both appropriately engaged and the old W seemed to be back: wise, intelligent, prudent, in her right mind.

When she invited me to come for dinner, I excepted and Anticipated a pleasant time together which happened. I excused myself before I stayed too long saying that I had to get to an engagement

Mock colon regarding her time, to me that means that she has work to do she has a process she is going through and I don’t have control so I need to give her space and time and respect. My time: this is an opportunity. I was talking with my therapist today about all the changes I have implemented and the counselor was helping me to see that I am living out my values without W and encouraged me to stay the course and establish and strengthen the lifestyle that’s important to me

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Mock colon (oh my) was supposed to be
Mach:

Voice to text !

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