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Originally Posted by kml
Phew! Girl, go buy a lottery ticket!
I did - a $5 scratch ticket. I didn't win, lol. But I won everything that matter, right? Oh forgot - on Wednesday I noticed my car was leaking gas. When it was at the shop on Friday they checked it - I need a new fuel filter - cheap and easy fix! Woot!


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Glad everyone is ok for a particular value of ok. I know how much you love that car (and your son and the doggo) - hopefully it can be fixed up as good as new.


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Glad you’re safe BF. One of the beautiful things about go through D you really start to understand what is important in life.


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Good Morning bttrfly

Wow!

Glad you and son are safe.

It’s amazing how quickly, in the blink of an eye, things can change. And change again.

Such a harrowing event, a damaging event; then a thankful grateful event. I agree, someone is watching over you. To exit that with just a scratch; yeah, blessed.

Life is short, and can and does change in an instant; live it well and fully. I believe your Mom said something like that to you from her deathbed, and now again. And Dad probably had a hand in this as well. (((Hug)))

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my dog is stoned out of his tiny little furry mind.

Lol.

Oh my, he’d be so loopy. He’s going to crave snacks. smile

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holy cannoli!! Glad you and son are ok. Those close calls really put life into perspective.


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ok. no heat downstairs. wth??? i remembered that thermostats now have batteries. I've changed the battery and have the gas fireplace going. fingers crossed I fixed the issue. except. the water isn't working in my fridge. so. we wait.

you know. just saying. being a bad @$$ can be somewhat tiring.


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plus woken up by the great horned owl serenading me last night. woke up my son as well. i also had really weird dreams. Mom and I were driving somewhere, that's all I remember. I think son was with us, but not sure. She was wearing a pink sweater. That I remember. Then another dream there was a commercial on tv for an album I thought she'd enjoy, so I went to order it, then I remembered she'd passed ... so I woke myself up, crying. it's ok. this is part of the process. then another weird dream somehow involving exh and OW/2.0/Vista and her non-existent daughter (she has two sons) ... and a house that was mine and exh's ... I dunno. didn't look like our marital home ... and finally one with the guy I blocked, except we were sort of seeing each other (which would be a really bad idea on my part) ... again. no idea what this was about. my subconscious is all over the place, right?

good grief. who needs travel with this kind of active dreamstate?


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(((BF))). So glad you and your son and your puppy are okay. I love your reaction to it. So many people would be focused on the negatives and the inconveniences but not you… you went straight to the bright side. Good for you!!! If more people did that, this world would be a much nicer place.

RE: your dream. I had some really vivid ones after my dad died (a very real-feeling conversation with him) and my mom too. Waking up in tears happened on a couple of occasions. I think you are right…it’s all part of the process. Your subconscious mind will even out over time. You don’t just get over losses like that in a few weeks. It takes time.

I also agree with you and your perspective on holding your XH accountable and how it isn’t your job. I, too, am polite and reserved when I see my kids’ dad. Hard to believe that it has only been three and a half years since I found out about him and OW because he really is a stranger to me now. Co-parenting with a stranger that you can’t trust is definitely not easy. I used to give him my trust freely but those days are gone. Like you said…trust is earned and I’m pretty sure my kids will be adults and living independently long before he has earned mine - if that’s even possible.

Hope your heat problems are solved quickly and cheaply. (((HUGS)))


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changing the batteries in the thermostat fixed it, DV ... thankfully !
If I stop to think about it (and I try not to, truthfully) I find it almost unfathomable that more than half my life was spent with someone I don't speak to ... that I share a child with someone who is a complete stranger, whose values are so far removed from mine. Oh well. That's life, right?


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Originally Posted by bttrfly
I find it almost unfathomable that more than half my life was spent with someone I don't speak to ... that I share a child with someone who is a complete stranger, whose values are so far removed from mine.

It is sorta surreal isn’t it? I mean even though my time together with my ex was probably around half that of yours, maybe even less, it is crazy to think how two people can see each other pretty much every day for nearly 10,000 days and then rarely if ever speak. Probably best not to think about it but dang, as the song lyrics go, how bizarre, how bizarre.


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