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Me55 (53@BD)
W52 (50@BD)
S22 (20@BD) S20 (19@BD)
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W52 (50@BD)
S22 (20@BD) S20 (19@BD)
Married 23 Together 28
BD 9/29/19 (came home from weekend fishing trip and wife had moved out with no warning)
W filed 10/19/20 (Informed me via text)
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Wow,

It took me two years to exhaust my first thread. I come here and read daily but don't post much. My STBXW is a vanisher. I've not spoken to her in over a year but get a business text every few months. My Sons are growing up and I still support them as needed. They have minimal contact with her.


It amazes me how the long time posters on here are typically 100% correct when diagnosing the MCLers. I would have swore my wife was not in an EA or PA in the first year of my situation. I came to find out however that she was in a fantasy EA with a 17 year old high school high boy who she met while chaperoning a school Europe trip 6 months prior to BD. This explains her obsessing over the HS football and basketball teams the first year of BD as he was on the teams. A friend clued me into this about 6 moths ago. It gave me the answers that I needed. She is messed up.

I'm doing well. Got great friends and family support. I have no issues living alone. Have been working out like a madman and galling at every opportunity. looking forward to a great 2022.

Taz


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Hello Taz

It’s nice when we get some validation/proof of our situation. And wow, your STBXW was smitten with a high school lad. Yep, these poor folks are lost.

Glad to hear you are doing well and looking forward to the upcoming year.

Originally Posted by Taz
They is STBXW and her L.

Oh, definitely have your own L involved. BTW, I was pretty sure you would and was happy to read you had that plan in place.

Great news about S22 being graduated. Is he having any luck getting some job offers in his field?

Take care.

D


Now: Me54 XW51 S25 S23 S21 D19

Oct 8/17-BD, Moves in w/OM, Leaves Kids
Me49 W46 S20 S19 S16 D15
M26 T29
Dec 9/17-Legal Separation
Oct 3/18-W Files
Apr 6/19-Divorced

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Originally Posted by DnJ
Great news about S22 being graduated. Is he having any luck getting some job offers in his field?

D,

Yes S22 is working as a field service engineer for a industrial equipment manufacturer. He is currently living in Denver and spends most of his time working in California. He seems happy which is all we can ask as parents.


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Taz, what a great update. Yes, happy and well-adjusted children is the greatest gift that we can ever have in this world!

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Well evidently my counter offer was not accepted as we are now required to pursue court ordered mediation. So I finally decided to retain legal counsel. It was sad filling out the form but oddly brought me much peace afterward.

I was warned by a friend that her lawyer was pushing for her to ask for more. Hopefully since I have a lawyer retained hers will back off a bit. Seems odd that it took 11 months for them to digest the financials and make an offer, then not respond to my counter. The next offer will not be as generous.

Life is good. Been busy with Gal, work, and home projects. Planning some trips for summer and fall. Helping S21 get set up to take a school abroad course this summer. Got his passport and are booking flights this weekend.

Oh yeah S20 turned 21 last month. I visited him at school and attended his improv club show. Tried to take him out for a drink afterward but he said he’s not interested in alcohol. I may need to have him take a DNA test to confirm we are related.

Taz


Me55 (53@BD)
W52 (50@BD)
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Originally Posted by Taz
Hopefully since I have a lawyer retained hers will back off a bit.
My observation is the "negotiation" will pay both the lawyers handsomely.

That is where most of my anger still lingers.....


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Taz,

What's the sticking point on the counter offer? Custody and child support are non-issues. Are you two far off on a particular area? Not sure about where you are, but often items are dictated by the statutes and the end result is similar to what both parties could've reasonably agreed to months or years earlier.

Good stuff on the Gal, work, home projects, and trip planning.

Got a good chuckle at the alcohol / DNA check comment.

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Me:39 Ex-W:37
M:7 T: 9
S:6 D:3
BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20
OM1 affair ends: May '20
W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20
W files for D: Jul20
OM2 confirmed: 9/2020
Divorced: May '21

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