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Originally Posted by Dawn70
You keep mentioning a book, LH. While I would imagine you are referring to your coach's book, I would contend that there are actually any number of books out there to help both men and women navigate the dating world so that people can choose and read the option that works best for them since not all books are created equal. The problem, however, lies in getting men (and women, as the case may be) to actually READ those books. I'm willing to bet a decent amount of my salary that the men G is referring to are NOT burning up the bookstore aisles or the Amazon website to purchase any books on dating because they THINK they "got this".
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I agree. I read once that self help books are purchased by men only 5% of the time. I have read many but the book I am referring is a easy read with basic concepts.
I haven't gotten through all of them yet, but I've purchase a dozen print and audio books recommended here on the forums and plan to continue if I see new ones mentioned.


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Athol Kay has some good books BL.

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people are NOT fungible. I do not ever want to interact with humans who believe this to be true.


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Originally Posted by bttrfly
people are NOT fungible. I do not ever want to interact with humans who believe this to be true.
Huh?

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the guy you revere - here's a quote: Quotes by Athol Kay. "The truth is most things and people are fungible.
VERY. much disagree.


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He basically said everyone is replaceable and compared people to “throwing a bad apple away and getting a new one”

Pretty much what our exes did to us, right ?

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Originally Posted by Ginger1
He basically said everyone is replaceable and compared people to “throwing a bad apple away and getting a new one”

Pretty much what our exes did to us, right ?
Yeah, I'm not thrilled to be likened to a used car, trade in every three years for a newer model. That's how my ex made me feel and that's what this quote says to me.

Each person is unique, each of us has something special to offer. this fungible concept removes our humanity.


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Just remember that what is ones person trash is another persons treasure.

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I'm no one's trash.


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Uuum it’s a a metaphor BF.

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