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#2927874 01/01/22 08:33 PM
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old thread: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2927872&page=1

Just made Hoppin' John in my Mom's honor - she loved to make it for the new year. Just ate a bowl. Yum.

Made lentil chorizo soup - we Italians love our lentils on New Year's. Also, yum.

Still haven't heard from son ... hoping that's a good sign.

Really enjoyed the discussion on my previous thread.


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Originally Posted by LH19
I thought true forgiveness was playing ping pong and Mario kart with them. Maybe that’s more pure detachment?

Nope. Neither.

Playing is friendship.

And interestingly, one more easily forgives an enemy than a friend (or self). Well usually. After you see and understand the path that changes.

It is, love the sinner and forgive the sin. Most folks have the object of forgiveness incorrect.


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LH, I don’t know why you keep using my ping pong and Mario kart playing as a marker for forgiveness and detachment. I reached my detachment long before I ever spent time with them. You know this.

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Originally Posted by DnJ
Nope. Neither.

Playing is friendship.
Agreed!



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Originally Posted by Ginger1
LH, I don’t know why you keep using my ping pong and Mario kart playing as a marker for forgiveness and detachment. I reached my detachment long before I ever spent time with them. You know this.
ah. I now understand the reference. Thanks for the context. LH ping pong and Mario Kart playing is what a mature person does with their ex for the sake of their child.


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Originally Posted by Ginger1
LH, I don’t know why you keep using my ping pong and Mario kart playing as a marker for forgiveness and detachment. I reached my detachment long before I ever spent time with them. You know this.
I’m just using it as an example. Relax! Not judging.


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Originally Posted by bttrfly
Originally Posted by Ginger1
LH, I don’t know why you keep using my ping pong and Mario kart playing as a marker for forgiveness and detachment. I reached my detachment long before I ever spent time with them. You know this.
ah. I now understand the reference. Thanks for the context. LH ping pong and Mario Kart playing is what a mature person does with their ex for the sake of their child.
So does this mean if I don’t want to play ping pong and Mario Kart I’m immature?


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sure.


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I’m being serious here.


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Jesus.

I was invited. It was important to my daughter. I chose to do it for her and it was a mature move on my part( thank you bttfly). It wouldn’t be immature if I chose not to, but it was the mature thing to do.

Anyways. Your ex isn’t asking for this and neither are your kids, so don’t worry about it.

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