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Good Morning Hope

Home owner!!!

Yay!!!

Congratulations. Be proud, that is quite an accomplishment.

Be secure. The home is your’s. Your own roof over your head. No one can kick you out.

And you crushed it making the team. Well done.

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I had several people lined up to help, now I'm scrambling to just hire it out and be done with it.

Just got to get the stuff in the house. You can unpack at your leisure. Expect for underwear. Better find those. Lol.

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I sure hope the newcomers get to see that there is life beyond D. A life they can't imagine. A life of peace and hope and joy and new beginnings.

Amen!

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Originally Posted by LH19
Do not validate BS behavior! Do not respond!

Your STBX has now been at minimum 3 inappropriate relationships with other men while you we’re together plus cheated on her BF with you.

She’s a serial cheater and consider yourself lucky to be rid of her!

The part I placed in bold. I see the advice giving to validate, and that's great, but sometimes I see validation used to comfort the WS/WAS when in fact, BS behavior should never be validated.

Feelings, yes, but not harmful behaviors. Also have to be careful not to validate the re-writing of history. Truth is good. Live in the light. Don't join anyone in the darkness.


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IHS: 1/17-2/19
D FILED (ME): 7/19
D FINAL: 10/20
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I can go without. hahaha

I'm getting it all worked out now. Have the day off today. Headed out for another load of boxes. It's all coming together.


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Congratulations on the house and on finding peace, hope, joy. Isn't that a wonderful place to be? Savor new home ownership! You have many blessings to fill your heart.


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You're rocking this, girlfriend!

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Originally Posted by 97Hope
I can go without. hahaha

LOL!


Glad you got the day off. A bit of extra breathing room.


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Originally Posted by 97Hope
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Originally Posted by LH19
Do not validate BS behavior! Do not respond!

Your STBX has now been at minimum 3 inappropriate relationships with other men while you we’re together plus cheated on her BF with you.

She’s a serial cheater and consider yourself lucky to be rid of her!

The part I placed in bold. I see the advice giving to validate, and that's great, but sometimes I see validation used to comfort the WS/WAS when in fact, BS behavior should never be validated.

Feelings, yes, but not harmful behaviors. Also have to be careful not to validate the re-writing of history. Truth is good. Live in the light. Don't join anyone in the darkness.
Drives me fuching insane. In the situation above his STBX should feel uncomfortable for fuching around with someone else’s husband. Consequences are our best teachers.

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LH!!!! SO good to see a post from you!!! xoxoxo


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97Hope,

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Today went in to the office for physical exam for special team. Ran 1.5 mile, 2 minutes of push ups/sit ups and then had to bench my weight.
I had no idea you were THAT strong, and maybe into powerlifting! We may need a DB fitness forum. wink Congratulations, on your house I mean, although benching your weight is an achievement too! I loved reading the happiness in your update this morning. Yes, your NY team and we are rooting for you even if we can't physically lift those boxes for ya!

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I'm finally going to bed. I found my underwear just fine, but struggled finding toothpaste and my work boots! "encouraged" me to unpack more than I planned tonight.

Work in the morning. Floors aren't finished. That has been a challenge. It will all come together in the end.

Just wanted to thank everyone for the encouragement and support!


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IHS: 1/17-2/19
D FILED (ME): 7/19
D FINAL: 10/20
M23 T25
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