Eagle, I just want to say I am happy for the newfound resolve and peace you have gained. Bravo. And your being a great mom is the loveliest gift for your very fortunate children. Keeping your family in my thoughts. May your H eventually find his way out of the intergenerational(? given his uncle) pain.
Hi Apsara, I just read your story and I'm sorry you are here as well. I too was active on the forum from a distance for almost 18 months before I actually wrote done my story. I'm so happy I did.
2 weeks post BD2 whereby H stated he wanted a divorce and again the ILYBNILWY story. (+ informed family & friends via phone a week later)
...and I'm actually doing just fine, the burden disappeared. Is it because BD1 was almost 2 years ago, because I finally found peace as I don't have to deal with the MLC madness anymore, because I actually can make plans to move forward in my life (and not stand still or go backwards anymore), don't know what is it but I'm not feeling bad, angry or sad.
Big help as well is that I didn't hear from him anymore and I hope this will be the case in the future as well. I can fully let him go now.
I can imagine I'm not there yet and I most likely will have a relapse, but for now I wanted to share with you that I'm just fine
Me (43) H (42) M:15 T:18, S16, S13 & S13 4/19 BD1 ILYB & OW1 02/20 end of OW1 02/20-08/20 living @ home 08/20 living abroad for W 12/20 Potential OW2 + BD2 wants divorce, I agree
Re: Strange...but feeling just fine...
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Hi Eagle3, just catching up on a bit of your sitch. Glad to hear you're doing fine.
MLC & a pandemic. Exciting right? Let's through in a divorce too. Oh 2020, what a year. I am jokingly thankful to XH ending our marriage in 2020. There are thousands of relationships that went sour, and we are part of that history! There will be a T-shirt for it I'm sure.
Keep on keeping on. Be the best you and all that jazz you've already read. There will be ups and HIGHS and there will be lows.. and not wanting to get up. Dust yourself off, cry if you need to, eat crappy for one day if it makes you feel better and talk to your friends.
Best to you, from one bird to another
~Never Give Up~ 2019 BD Mar Apr-Nov(H away/ wrk) BD June Nov H home Dec Aow/xgf 2020 Jan H wants D H flys to ow March D signed..NOT filed!? 2gther 4 Covid April 22 H back to work Oct 22/20 D FINAL