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Re: My story…never told but presumably in last three s [Re: Eagle3] #2912611
01/14/21 04:11 AM
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Eagle, I just want to say I am happy for the newfound resolve and peace you have gained. Bravo. And your being a great mom is the loveliest gift for your very fortunate children. Keeping your family in my thoughts. May your H eventually find his way out of the intergenerational(? given his uncle) pain.

Strange...but feeling just fine... [Re: Eagle3] #2912639
01/14/21 04:55 PM
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Hi Apsara,
I just read your story and I'm sorry you are here as well. I too was active on the forum from a distance for almost 18 months before I actually wrote done my story. I'm so happy I did.

2 weeks post BD2 whereby H stated he wanted a divorce and again the ILYBNILWY story. (+ informed family & friends via phone a week later)

...and I'm actually doing just fine, the burden disappeared. Is it because BD1 was almost 2 years ago, because I finally found peace as I don't have to deal with the MLC madness anymore, because I actually can make plans to move forward in my life (and not stand still or go backwards anymore), don't know what is it but I'm not feeling bad, angry or sad.

Big help as well is that I didn't hear from him anymore and I hope this will be the case in the future as well.
I can fully let him go now.

I can imagine I'm not there yet and I most likely will have a relapse, but for now I wanted to share with you that I'm just fine smile


Me (43) H (42)
M:15 T:18, S16, S13 & S13
4/19 BD1 ILYB & OW1
02/20 end of OW1
02/20-08/20 living @ home
08/20 living abroad for W
12/20 Potential OW2 + BD2 wants divorce, I agree
Re: Strange...but feeling just fine... [Re: Eagle3] #2912689
01/15/21 02:00 AM
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Originally Posted by Eagle3


...and I'm actually doing just fine, the burden disappeared...I'm not feeling bad, angry or sad.


Keep this close to you to remind you if you feel a bit wobbly on some days.

Remember your strength. Remember you have good days and bad and reach deep down to where you are in this moment.

I, too, felt that. The burden was lifted from me.

I didn't realize how tightly I was holding on. When I let go - I had peace.

Doesn't mean it's always easy (had a setback this week) but it's good to know that I have a strength within that I can draw from.

I read the lighthouse a lot (newcomers post). It helps center me and who I want to be.

Stay strong, Eagle!!

Re: Strange...but feeling just fine... [Re: Eagle3] #2912709
01/15/21 08:33 AM
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Hi Eagle3, just catching up on a bit of your sitch. Glad to hear you're doing fine.

MLC & a pandemic. Exciting right? Let's through in a divorce too. Oh 2020, what a year. I am jokingly thankful to XH ending our marriage in 2020. There are thousands of relationships that went sour, and we are part of that history! There will be a T-shirt for it I'm sure.

Keep on keeping on. Be the best you and all that jazz you've already read. There will be ups and HIGHS and there will be lows.. and not wanting to get up. Dust yourself off, cry if you need to, eat crappy for one day if it makes you feel better and talk to your friends.

Best to you, from one bird to another wink


~Never Give Up~
2019
BD Mar
Apr-Nov(H away/ wrk)
BD June
Nov H home
Dec Aow/xgf
2020 Jan H wants D
H flys to ow
March D signed..NOT filed!?
2gther 4 Covid
April 22 H back to work
Oct 22/20 D FINAL
Re: Strange...but feeling just fine... [Re: CanBird] #2912729
01/15/21 03:24 PM
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T-shirts. We certainly need t-shirts! laugh

Several of us decided we needed #CAGD (crap at going dark) shirts in 2019.

maybe #MLC19D (MLC/covid19/divorce)

Here's to an amazing 2021! lol

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