See it for what it is

[MrBrside]

I would. The type of divorce were filing both parties have to be present at the courthouse.

I see this as an opertunity for heart string tweaking.

If you are serious about this, you could handle it like a business meeting.

I would suggest that you

Speak to the court house and get 4 or 5 free slots, that work for you.
Email WW with these slots and ask which one is convenient.
Book the slot once she .


This keeps interaction to a bare minimum.

[Kind18]

Good for you, Indy.

You’re a good egg. You deserve someone who is head over heels for you.

[LH19]

What’s the latest Indy. Your silence makes me nervous lol.

[Indy470]

LH I’m alright man.

The divorce has been filed for about two weeks.

I’ve had a lot of good days in a row but today has sucked.

The strongest feeling that has taken over at times is anger.

The other two feelings in the background are guilt and sadness today.

[LH19]

Indy,

Hey man I’m sorry you are struggling. The holidays are a tough time for sure.

You are going to have to cycle through the stages of grief and they are not linear.

Anger can be good if channeled in the right places.

I understand you may feel guilty but I know you did the best you could and this is not your vault.

I know you can’t see it now but this is a blessing in disguise. You do not want to go through this down the road. Tomorrow is my sons 16th birthday and he will not wake up in my house.

Again I’m really sorry.

[Indy470]

LH,

I’m truly sorry to hear that. I hope your day is going good and you’ve had a chance to talk to your soon and wish him a happy birthday.

[Indy470]

Just drove home from work crying and screaming viscerally.

I don’t understand this kind of pain.

I am beyond sorry to everyone on here trying to save your marriage that feels this on a daily basis.

I’m 7 months in, thought I’d be further along.

[Gigi123]

Oh Indy

Im sorry and its ok! 9 months in and there are days few and far between when i feel like screaming and crying. Mine are generally because of how my kids feel. But its ok to feel whatever you are feeling, as long as it doesn't trigger you to do anything like contact you W.
You are likely to feel something when d is finalized or if she reaches out, you arent made of stone. I find its best to live through these emotions and then let go, rather than suppress them.

[97Hope]

Indy,

Just now trying to catch up on your sitch.

You will be ok. I ended up filing in 2019 after standing for 2 years. I am in a different place now. I have peace without all of the chaos from what my X was contributing. Look at this time as yours, to heal and freedom from the chaos. It doesn't feel like freedom yet, but now you choose what you let into your life. Be choosey. Allow only truth.

It's good to scream in the car. I've done it. One of the best things I've done is read a lot on grief and the grieving process.

I really just wanted to say - It will NOT always feel like this.

[LH19]

Just drove home from work crying and screaming viscerally.

I don’t understand this kind of pain.

I am beyond sorry to everyone on here trying to save your marriage that feels this on a daily basis.

I’m 7 months in, thought I’d be further along.

All normal Indy. We’ve all been there. The pain will subside. One day at a time man. Be patient with yourself.