This is great advice! Less time worrying, being anxious, etc. is more time to actually live and GAL. Remember, you don't need to respond in real-time, and usually, it's better not to.
Texts that aren't questions....no response. Texts that are questions "When can we discuss Christmas?" do not get answered right away (answer in your own time), and then only in as few words as possible. Yes or no questions get yes or no answers.
Great = NO RESPONSE
So you did well.
I like this. I'm going to put this in my phone to reference.
"Did your parents just tell you about their symptoms and test today?"
The truth is Dad said on Sunday that mom was worn out from us leaving on vacation. Else, they didn't tell me anything. How should I respond? I'm sure she is only asking to nail me or my family with this question.
Maybe, I've been doing this wrong, but why respond to texts? You have children. You'll exchange them in the near future. You can discuss anything important then. And remember to walk away the second she makes a snide comment. Both the texts and the snide comments are likely to stop shortly thereafter. Then, the only communication you have is essential communication and that's easy to deal with.
And yes, maybe she is out "divorce busting" me. I forgot to send my daughters orthodontic mask with her so my wife text me that she would pick it up. And then she asked that I sit it on the porch.
Just kind of funny to me how she wants no interaction at all.
Spiral: I think you are doing it right. Good for you. I'm challenged. But Steve85's message about text rules was helpful.
Right now she doesn’t want to be around you because she doesn’t want you to play your Jedi mind tricks on her trying to get her back. (Her words). This will change most likely in time when she feels safe to be around you.
