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Originally Posted by Steve85
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I didn’t realize she had an affair ON YOUR WEDDING DAY!!!!!

That’s a low that’s on a totally different level. Good lord


Total lack of respect. Scott, it really is amazing you two have made it this long.

Uuum think you have wrong thread Steve. M made it 3 months.

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Originally Posted by LH19
Originally Posted by Steve85
Originally Posted by Ginger1
I didn’t realize she had an affair ON YOUR WEDDING DAY!!!!!

That’s a low that’s on a totally different level. Good lord


Total lack of respect. Scott, it really is amazing you two have made it this long.

Uuum think you have wrong thread Steve. M made it 3 months.


Yeah sorry, that was meant for Mumin. And my point was that I would have filed for D the minute I found out about the wedding day thing.


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Ok, thanks for "input" grin

W wrote, hope I didn't upset you too much.
Not sure what to write to her.
Leaning towards something like this.

Unless you have remorse or have left OM I don't want to talk to you about us anymore.


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How about “not at all”

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Originally Posted by Mumin
Ok, thanks for "input" grin

W wrote, hope I didn't upset you too much.
Not sure what to write to her.
Leaning towards something like this.

Unless you have remorse or have left OM I don't want to talk to you about us anymore.


I vote for no response at all. She didn't ask if you were upset, she made a statement.


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She didn't ask if you were upset, she made a statement.

This is true, thanks Steve!


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Originally Posted by Mumin
Unless you have remorse or have left OM I don't want to talk to you about us anymore.


In my opinion, an answer like that would ruin everything and put you back to square one. You are basically saying "if you ever decide to leave OM, I am here and ready to take you back"


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Also true. Thanks Ben!


More messages...
"we can talk more tomorrow if you want... bla bla..."
"However I look at it I beleive this apartment is an important step in the long-term, for all of us"
"So I will buy it bla bla bla"
"OR what do you think?"
a few minutes later
"I dont know what you are thinking or if you want to say. But I prefer to hear what you are thinking"

She is basically asking me if she should buy the apartment.


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Just tell her she should do what she feels is right. She'll take it from there.


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It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
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Originally Posted by ovrrnbw
Just tell her she should do what she feels is right. She'll take it from there.


PERFECTION.


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