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Wow - what an update! I sure wouldn't want to be him.

You did well, girlfriend. A life well lived is the best revenge.

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Wow, what a story! I was RIVETED! I felt vindicated on your behalf, finally your exH sees what he left and what an amazing mother you are. I was also so happy at how much fun you were able to have, and how your family was constantly protecting you and being there for each other. I really don't have that and it looks amazing to have that kind of support.


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Congratulations on the marriage of your daughter exquisitetobe! I am so happy that you had a great day to celebrate with them.


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I am so proud of you and your children! It sounds like it started out being a very tense day, but in the end, everything went well and all of you had a nice day with many pleasant memories. Congratulations to the new husband and wife. I'm sure that they are glad it is over and can now focus on the future.

Well done!


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Thank you everyone!
It went really well. Everybody were happy of the outcome !

Now, yet another " red flag " ( i would say )...
D20 went to spend a few days at her father in her reading week.this is the daughter who is in University, studying psychology and mental health)
I do not know how the subject came about but ex-h commented : " sometimes, i feel like going in a crowd and shooting all the idiots, just to see how it feels! "

D20: "OMG dad, this is alarming. Are ypu ok? "
Ex- h: " am just kidding ".

He said these words 3 times in the few days she was there.
Is he playing , taunting her? Or is he in a mental state again?

I do not trust this man. I do not know what happen to the one i fell in love with and felt so safe by his side.
To have those tought of "seeing how it feels" seems very scary to me.

My reply was: " well, he thinks everyone are idiots."
" lets hope he does not go through with his words."

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Let's hope he doesn't follow thru. The comment also reminds me of someone who is trying to "feel" something or he could be wanting a "reaction" from his daughter to see if she is really listening and cares about him. He sounds depressed and "numb", i.e., feelings at the moment. They do tend to say things that are off color at times.


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Job,
I think you got it right!
It would make alot of sense. Shaken up by the wedding. Seating in the second row.. not walking his daughter down the isle, supper at " friend" table, Seeing the 5 of us being so close and him being the outcast( of his own will ).

And here i am, feeling sympathy for him. again.

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You know that if he said that to a physician or mental health worker, in the U.S. they would be required by law to report it? That sounds very dangerous. Do you know if he owns a gun? That sounds extremely dangerous and is a HUGE red flag!

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Kml, my ex is a cop ( staff sergeant ).. he has guns and badge

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This needs to be reported. Seriously.

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