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kml #2894509 05/10/20 02:45 PM
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Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms out there doing double duty with an uninvolved Ex, and to all the dads out there picking up the mom role too after their absentee WAWs left.

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I'm not a fan of Hallmark type holidays but getting a text at 12:11am from D14 meant the world to me. It said Happy Mothers day, love you with heart emojis. My R with my kids after BD is nothing short of miraculous.

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That's awesome kas.

CMM has had another rough round of chemo but looked a bit perkier today. Really all things considered his experiences with chemo have not been of the full-on stomach flu variety so that's good.

I'm still just moving along, one foot in front of the other.

kml #2894750 05/12/20 11:55 PM
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CMM is doing well due to your incredible care.

I hope your mother's day was spectacular.

xoxoxo


M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver
kml #2895660 05/22/20 05:37 PM
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One of my favorite patients has died. He was 80, and he and his brother (78) have been patients of mine for about ten years.

He was a healthy 80 year old, hadn’t been ill. His brother said he had felt tired the last couple weeks but thought it was due to the gardening he was doing every day in the heat.

He was with his brother in their house, discussing the younger brother’s art and some plans they had for that, when he suddenly started gasping for breath and just died. Paramedics were called and he was taken to the ER but he was never able to be revived.

Most likely a heart attack. What the younger brother learned later was that he had had a screaming argument two hours earlier with a member of the homeowners association (part of a long-running dispute). I suspect the stress from that triggered a heart attack (no reason to suspect CoVID as an underlying factor, although it certainly can cause heart attacks).

The brothers lived together and were very close. The younger brother had been divorced, and then the older brothers wife wanted to retire to an exotic Central American country. Older brother felt he couldn’t leave his brother all alone, so his wife and daughter moved to Central America and he lived with his brother. The older brother was the more outgoing one - and actually the healthier of the two. I worry what will become of the younger brother now.

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Really, really sorry to hear about your patient KML. (((HUGS)))

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I am very sorry to read of the passing of one of your patients. Sounds like his stress level went up a few notches after arguing w/someone. I hope and pray that the other brother takes care of himself.


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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Quiet weekend at home (so what's new?). I sewed some more masks for friends and my staff. Watched old movies on TCM. I'm glad to be back at work today even though there have been come cancellations and it's a very light day - CMM's OCPD gets hard to take by the end of a long weekend. Everybody in the house is trying to accommodate him but honestly, it's crazy sometimes. For example - my dishwasher broke recently and I haven't gotten a new one organized yet. It's no big deal to me to wash dishes by hand. The boys do their own dishes, and have been good about it. However, CMM has to complain that one son didn't dry his dishes and put them away, but left them in the dish drainer. We are talking about a bowl and a glass! It took 2 seconds to put it away. Honestly he wastes more energy complaining about stuff than it would take to just handle it. It's really wearing on me.

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S said that her STBX leaves passive aggressive comments on a whiteboard in the kitchen specifically dedicated to the purpose. Her D19 lives there and last reported that the current drama was 3 missing forks. Comments about shoes not being lined up were also common. He also sends paragraph long texts about their shortcomings if they aren't handy to read the whiteboard.

Does CMM need a whiteboard to let it all out on? crazy cool


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Originally Posted by kml
Quiet weekend at home (so what's new?). I sewed some more masks for friends and my staff. Watched old movies on TCM. I'm glad to be back at work today even though there have been come cancellations and it's a very light day - CMM's OCPD gets hard to take by the end of a long weekend. Everybody in the house is trying to accommodate him but honestly, it's crazy sometimes. For example - my dishwasher broke recently and I haven't gotten a new one organized yet. It's no big deal to me to wash dishes by hand. The boys do their own dishes, and have been good about it. However, CMM has to complain that one son didn't dry his dishes and put them away, but left them in the dish drainer. We are talking about a bowl and a glass! It took 2 seconds to put it away. Honestly he wastes more energy complaining about stuff than it would take to just handle it. It's really wearing on me.


Girl, I don't know how you refrain from saying, "There's the door ... don't let it hit ya where the good Lord split ya!"


M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver
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