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Re: A country boy (and girl) can survive [Re: Dawn70] #2891253
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People here are not paying attention since our governor doesnít seem to be taking it seriously. I live in a small town but when I went through town Tuesday when I went to my office, Walmart and the grocery store were packed. Seriously????? I just donít get it.

I wish I didnít have to deal with the XHís XW but she has FINALLY gotten her sh!t together and developed a great relationship with the girls and I always feel like I need to include her. Itís a long story but really, my life would be easier without her.

Here is my observation for today: todayís young adults have NO general reasoning skills. I sent a student a screenshot of a website address along with instructions on how to set up an account and the access code to take them directly to my class. I explained, simply I thought, that they would have to copy and paste or type the web address into the search bar because the link on the screenshot wouldnít be clickable, even though it was correct. Now, 5 emails, 3 texts and a phone call later, the girl emails me and tells me she is confused on how I will ďreceiveĒ her work. I said the computer logs it for you. A little later, I get an email asking if I got her work. I logged into the website where I can see who has ďregisteredĒ and what work they have done. She wasnít even registered. I emailed her back and she then sent me a resource handout I had posted on their class website with 5 questions answered. While I appreciate that she looked at our class website, that was NOT the assignment that I emailed her Monday and have spent a good deal of time electronically communicating about with her for the past few days. AND, I EXPLICITLY explained the assignment and gave all the necessary website info to them in an email on Monday. Now I get yet another email about how she canít get into the website because when she clicks the link I sent, it wonít open. What part of type the d@mn thing in did she not understand????????

Lord help me if I get through this semester, Iím going to spend my summer building an entire lab class online and write VERY detailed access instructions.


Me 50, H52
Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014
Marriage #2 12/31/2019
5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships)
4 grandkids (plus 2 on the way)
Re: A country boy (and girl) can survive [Re: Dawn70] #2891272
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ask her to have her parents help her. i suspect they have done so all her life. there. that's my rant for the day.


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BD 4/6/15
H moved out 4/24/15
D Final 12/23/16
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Re: A country boy (and girl) can survive [Re: Dawn70] #2891278
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On the other hand, this girl might have grown up poor with no computer at home.

Re: A country boy (and girl) can survive [Re: Dawn70] #2891279
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BTW call a local quilters group to see if anybody there wants the fabric and elastic for masks. I'm sure they'll have someone who needs it.

Re: A country boy (and girl) can survive [Re: bttrfly] #2891281
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Originally Posted by bttrfly
ask her to have her parents help her. i suspect they have done so all her life. there. that's my rant for the day.


Yes, sadly, that seems to be the rule rather than the exception. This girl is like this in other classes as well and kind of expects people to do things for her. Her mom is a lawyer and her dad has family money. Sheís a nice enough girl, not really rude or anything, but pretty lazy.

And kml, I appreciate your optimism concerning maybe it is a lack of skills on the part of the student because of her station in life. Thatís clearly not the case in this example. But, honestly, I see it with a lot of students. Many have a very hard time with deductive reasoning. They need stuff explicitly spelled out. Iím not necessarily blaming anyone per se because my XH and I adamantly disagreed on how to help the girls with their homework. I wanted to guide them let them do it. He basically wanted to do it for them then show them how. I think a lot of parents now fall into that 2nd category, for better or worse. I, on the other hand, learned how to swim when my father picked me up, walked out on the end of the diving board and threw me into the deep end of the pool and told me to swim to my mom in the shallow end. I think a lot of people in my age range would have similar tales where parents today would likely consider that abuse (I did not, for the record. And I learned how to swim.)


Me 50, H52
Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014
Marriage #2 12/31/2019
5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships)
4 grandkids (plus 2 on the way)
Re: A country boy (and girl) can survive [Re: Dawn70] #2891282
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When you tweak the instructions to be very detailed, you may want to consider that with each written bit of info you show a screenshot step-by-step.

As we move online, my kidsí school district is doing this at the middle school and high school level and it does simplify matters.

Some people are simply visually orientated. Different set of strengths.


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BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced
Re: A country boy (and girl) can survive [Re: HaWho] #2891283
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Originally Posted by HaWho
When you tweak the instructions to be very detailed, you may want to consider that with each written bit of info you show a screenshot step-by-step.

As we move online, my kidsí school district is doing this at the middle school and high school level and it does simplify matters.

Some people are simply visually orientated. Different set of strengths.


Yes, I have been doing that from the beginning because Iím definitely visually oriented so I thought it would help.


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Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014
Marriage #2 12/31/2019
5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships)
4 grandkids (plus 2 on the way)
Re: A country boy (and girl) can survive [Re: Dawn70] #2891291
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BTW call a local quilters group to see if anybody there wants the fabric and elastic for masks. I'm sure they'll have someone who needs it.

Re: A country boy (and girl) can survive [Re: kml] #2891296
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Originally Posted by kml
BTW call a local quilters group to see if anybody there wants the fabric and elastic for masks. I'm sure they'll have someone who needs it.


Sorry kml, I saw that suggestion earlier and didnít respond. I contacted a friend who used to be a home ec teacher to see if she knew anyone making them and she is helping the new home ec teacher at her school do them as online demos for the students to do them and donate to area healthcare workers, so we worked out a way to get the materials to her and still be socially distant.


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Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014
Marriage #2 12/31/2019
5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships)
4 grandkids (plus 2 on the way)
Re: A country boy (and girl) can survive [Re: Dawn70] #2891339
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Yeah - I support technology - among about 8 other hats that I seem to be wearing these days - but tech is what I've done for about 30 years.

There's a huge divide between those who figure it out and those who have to be spoon fed. And it's funny. It's often the older people who do the best. I have a salesman who is in his mid 70s - still working to support his ex-wives. He is often a first adopter and never asks the same question twice. And he's not shy at all when he needs something laugh Another person I would always quip "so what did you break this time" when she called knowing full well that if she called, that it was really really broken.

Then I have people, including many of our younger people who can't possibly work if an icon that was placed on their screen for them moved.


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