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My previous thread is locked, so if everyone here can read the old thread and keep me going with your great advice I would appreciate it.
I am doing the GAL, and will have the literature, to read in a couple weeks when I get home from overseas.
Its tough, and is taking allot of patience to not analyze and to leave her alone, not pursuing etc. But, thanks to Steve85 and others, I will do it...
Whether or not my marriage works out is dependent on things I have no control over..
https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2881318#Post2881318


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Actually, your thread wasn't locked at all. I do not know why Virginia stated that it was locked, but it wasn't. So, I've added your new thread link and have just now locked that thread for you.


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Originally Posted by job
Actually, your thread wasn't locked at all. I do not know why Virginia stated that it was locked, but it wasn't. So, I've added your new thread link and have just now locked that thread for you.

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Okay, today is Valentines Day.. Going to be tough. Not knowing what she is doing, and not sure what to say if she were to comment on today.
Uggghh..
Also, other thread is not locked, but cant post to it..Is that normal when attaching a new thread to it? Or is that what she meant when locked?


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I added the link to your new thread on your previous thread and locked it. Once a thread is locked you cannot post to it again. The moderators and administrators are the only ones that can then go in and do whatever needs to be done, i.e., posting the links to the new threads, etc.


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Originally Posted by job
I added the link to your new thread on your previous thread and locked it. Once a thread is locked you cannot post to it again. The moderators and administrators are the only ones that can then go in and do whatever needs to be done, i.e., posting the links to the new threads, etc.

Thnx..


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Going to be home in a few days, any words of encouragement? Wife and I have been talking, just business/family stuff, nothing emotional, as I am a few thousand miles away. Been gone 6 weeks.
I am hoping this time away, she may miss me, or remember more positive stuff about us.. One can only hope..


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Originally Posted by Mach40
Going to be home in a few days, any words of encouragement? Wife and I have been talking, just business/family stuff, nothing emotional, as I am a few thousand miles away. Been gone 6 weeks.
I am hoping this time away, she may miss me, or remember more positive stuff about us.. One can only hope..



Who has been initiating this contact?


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Originally Posted by Mach40
Been gone 6 weeks.
I am hoping this time away, she may miss me, or remember more positive stuff about us.. One can only hope..



Sounds like you have set an expectation.

Return home "as if" toward her.


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Originally Posted by Steve85
Originally Posted by Mach40
Going to be home in a few days, any words of encouragement? Wife and I have been talking, just business/family stuff, nothing emotional, as I am a few thousand miles away. Been gone 6 weeks.
I am hoping this time away, she may miss me, or remember more positive stuff about us.. One can only hope..



Who has been initiating this contact?

She will after nothing for 3 to 4 days just to see how I am ( she will phrase it as, just checking in as I worry about ya when I dont hear from ya), or I will for business/family things that need taking care of.


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