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ozman #2872717 11/20/19 04:52 AM
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I see. Thank you.

I said burritos?
No
Ok spaghetti?
That doesn’t sound good either
Ok. Maybe something really easy like hamburger helper or something?
I don’t want that either
Ok well what sounds good to you?
Idk I don’t wanna do this over the phone

I see my error. Thank you

However in the past when I have just been decisive. She will accuse me of just thinking about myself. Or of asking for something unreasonable because I don’t have our current stock of ingredients memorized and we don’t have the needed materials.

She gets angry when I can’t think of dinner when she can’t think of it either.

This stuff sounds so trivial to me.


Me 32. W. 30
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ozman #2872719 11/20/19 04:59 AM
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Thanks for clarifying.


Maybe try this next time:

W:"What do you want for dinner?"
H:"I am going to get BigMac and fries. Do you want anything from McD?


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W:"What do you want for dinner?"
H:"Nothing. I am not hungry."


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ozman #2872746 11/20/19 04:14 PM
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Oz, did all your proposals involve your wife shopping/cooking? Did any involve you cooking? (You both work, so it doesn’t sound like an “I work, she tends house” setup. You also plan to be single soon.)

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However in the past when I have just been decisive. She will accuse me of just thinking about myself. Or of asking for something unreasonable because I don’t have our current stock of ingredients memorized and we don’t have the needed ingredients

If you want X and ask her to make X and there’s no X in the fridge, I totally see her point. If you instead make a plan for X and offer to include her—e.g., “I was thinking of picking up and grilling a couple pork chops, if you wouldn’t mind cooking the veggies.. I’d also be down with fast food burgers.”, that’s quite different. Even offering to pick up any ingredients she wants should avoid her being annoyed you asked for something not in the cupboard?

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