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ozman #2869872 10/29/19 07:03 PM
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Originally Posted by ozman
However I’m an emotional guy and a like being around happy people.


Well with that schedule you won't have to be around her much.

Patience.


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I think it’s about time to put my dog down. She has been a good companion. Dakota or Kota for short has been everything a man could want out of a dog. Loyal smart and my best friend. I had her before I met W. Her hips are giving out. She can barely walk. German Shepherd. 11.5 years old. I’m sure gonna miss her


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Originally Posted by ozman
I think it’s about time to put my dog down. She has been a good companion. Dakota or Kota for short has been everything a man could want out of a dog. Loyal smart and my best friend. I had her before I met W. Her hips are giving out. She can barely walk. German Shepherd. 11.5 years old. I’m sure gonna miss her


Sorry Oz. I've lost 4 dogs in the last 9 years. Never gets easier.

A couple months after we got married, I had to have my dog that I had had since I was 17 put down. But I like your attitude. I admit that I probably waited a few weeks too long to put down my dog after we got married, because I was being selfish and didn't want her to go. But she was in severe discomfort.

Hang in there man.


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Originally Posted by ozman
I think it’s about time to put my dog down.
Sorry bud. Unconditional love is hard to find. Glad we have dogs in our lives.


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Awwww, sorry to hear that Oz. Dogs are amazing companions. My doxy was there for me when no one else was after my XW left. I hope there is a life after this one and we are reunited with our loving pets.


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Oz,

Really sorry about your dog.

Stay strong buddy!

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Sending you a big hug Oz. Pets are family.


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I’m gonna keep an extra close eye on her the next week or so. I have a tough decision to make. But I think it’s time. She still seems happy. But she is in pain. I don’t want her to suffer.

Thanks for the well wishes guys.

Steve 4 in 9 years. Wow. This is my first dog. Countless miles behind a tractor. Countless rabbits caught and eaten. Lol. She is an awesome dog


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Hey guys! A lot to talk about. First. I discovered the library today! I don’t know why I didn’t come here sooner. This place seems like a haven from everything bad going on

Second. I got a job offer!! I’m thinking about hanging up my wrenches. And this job would triple my current income! It’s at a higher end car dealership. The hiring person showed me numbers and I’m very tempted. It’s a place where a sales slot does not open very often so it’s kind of a rare opportunity. W has had some upheaval at her job over the last couple days where she thought she might not have a job. She has stressed out so bad that she has developed a huge rash!! It all worked out however and I was there to listen to her stress out about it.

Third. I tried to approach W to visit with her about said job offer. Each time she blew me off and started talking about her stress about her job. She has begun disrespecting me again. She is rude unless she needs someone to talk to. She became this way once I started working two jobs. I’m never home and that seems to have made things worse. She publicly humiliated me last night at a large family dinner last night. Someone said something about buying a car to wich she said loudly “my credit score is like a 300! And that’s because of you” (gesturing to me). In front of her entire family. It was very humiliating.

The only reason I have tried to involve her in the conversation about my job offer is because it affects our entire family. And a move this big (that also carries some risk) I feel should be decided by both of us. After repeated failed attempts to converse with her about it I told her this morning “I’m thinking about putting in my 2 weeks”. That got her attention!! Lol. Then she became very angry. She told me that she thinks that this opportunity is “f$&@&$g stupid” and the said “you do whatever the f@$k you want to do”.

I’m done. I can tell you guys that you were right. I wasn’t as fine as I thought. Because those things hurt. But I’m tired of her. I’m tired of trying. I’m tired of doing nothing. I’ve tried to help her with her stress but to no avail. I’ve tried doing nothing which makes her spiral out of control. She is a wreck!! When I withdraw. She goes downhill.

The is an article on this website that that says that sometimes all that can be salvaged is the friendship. I think that is where I may be. I don’t want to end up hating her. I’m about to call it

Advice please?


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Originally Posted by sandi2


I don't how you respond (if any)to her anger, but if you can understand why she's angry, it might help you to be sensitive to her feelings. You probably think you can't do anything to please her at the moment, and a lot of that may be true, b/c she has a lot of "stuff" that she has to work through. Just as you can't expect overnight to become that man only a fool would leave, neither can she get her stuff together that quickly.



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