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Originally Posted by Steve85
Almost told her I wanted to separate this morning. It was weird. The urge just overcame me.


How are things now?


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Originally Posted by Ready2Change
Originally Posted by Steve85
Almost told her I wanted to separate this morning. It was weird. The urge just overcame me.


How are things now?


Things are good. We are back to the pre-bump-in-the-road dynamic. We are having a lot of fun together, we are interacting well and sharing our lives well. She continues to be openly transparent on everything.

One small obstacle to physical intimacy. She recently developed a health issue that is preventing it. Went to her doctor today and the doctor said there was a procedure to correct it, but that it was up to her. Don't want to get into details, but just suffice it to say her and I need to discuss it. I need to be more open about needs, etc.


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Originally Posted by Steve85
I need to be more open about needs

Check out Fine Art of Erotic Talk p187. You might be able to tweek it to be less needy sounding.

I really don't talk about my needs with my lady. I build up the tension, tease, give her a choice"

Rated G version:
Me:"Want to fool around before or after dinner?" Smile/Wink


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Glad to hear things are back on track Steve.

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Way to go Steve!

Have you tried coming home at lunchtime, but not for lunch, yet?

I fully agree with R2C about not talking about your needs (in the intimacy sphere). You fulfill hers, and focus on hers being your priority, and I can guarantee she'll be asking you what you need and want! Maybe give her a hint if you feel the timing's right by whispering it in her ear in conjunction with what you intend to do to her!

I've got no idea what her health issue is, but if it's just preventing you from, ahem, coupling in the traditional sense, then maybe a chance to explore other options in fulfilling her needs.

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Rated G version:
Me:"Want to fool around before or after dinner?" Smile/Wink


PG version (even better if you cook dinner)

Hope you're hungry darl. We're having XYZ for dinner - I'm devouring you for dessert... (insert wink emoji)

Good luck Steve!


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Steve, how's it going?


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Jim,

Things are good. The old house is almost sold. So that will be good. D16 finished driver's ed. Hunting season is here. W and I have been having a lot of fun, enjoying each other's company. I am still GAL (gun range Tues./hunting this weekend). Really nothing to report. She was on a church ladies' trip last weekend. I did some "verifying" and found nothing out of the ordinary. So we seem to be over the bump in the road of a couple of months ago.

Thanks for asking, appreciate it.


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Hey guys. Quick checkin. Been struggling with the instinct to be clingy and needy. Fighting it hard. This is something I've struggled with over the years. If I start feeling close and connected I can fall into the needy clingy trap.

GAL hasn't been an issue. Still hiitting the gun range with a buddy. I'm in a tree stand as I type this. Just need some 2x4s.

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Nothing wrong with needing your woman now and again. What are you needing her for?


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Ovr, just a needy clingy thing. Not sure much needing. I'll type more from my pc later.


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