I have noticed that a number of postings are being made with links to other sites, as well as videos, etc. One of the Board Policies that you agreed to when you became a member is not to post links, etc.
"You agree not to post any copyrighted material, photos, videos, book references, or links to other sites."
If the links are not directly related to DB, they will be deleted from your postings.
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