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Re: Forgiven, they go free of you, and you of them [Re: OwnIt] #2873952
11/30/19 03:19 PM
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Originally Posted by OwnIt
He said it is stitch and glue and marine grade plywood. I guess there is a particular sail he can order for it. Already he's thinking about paint colors and the plans have not even arrived. He thinks he is going to talk OD into helping him. I am just keeping my lips shut on that one.
You can make decent sails out of standard hardware store polytarp. I've actually had racing sailors come over and ask where I got mine wink For 1/4" plywood, if he is willing to go cheap, bathroom underlayment made out of a species of mahogany called luan works well and has the same adhesives between the layers as marine plywood at a fraction of the cost.

One of the most fun parts for me in building a boat is figuring out and sourcing all the various bits and bobs and I would for years go to the hardware stores with a measuring tape in my pocket considering what I could use for what. It was actually a key bonding time between myself and my daughter for many years.

If he is interested in sailing or more specifically knot-work, Ashley's Book of Knots is the definitive collection and ballasts down the starboard side of my bathroom bookshelf. It's a bit expensive but is well presented and easy to follow. And for the snobbier sailors, being able to reference a particular ABOK knot adds to the aura of competency laugh


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Re: Forgiven, they go free of you, and you of them [Re: OwnIt] #2874137
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What a great idea Andrew, I will definitely order the knot book for him for Christmas. He loves the water, anything to do with the water and outdoors.

OD contacted me for the first time in about 3 years for something that was not divorce/separation pretext. It began with the usual pompous greeting, but I am guessing that is more about the vulnerability that he feels in reaching out than about trying to annoy me. It was him wanting to be involved in something concerning our daughter. The first attempt at her that is kind and caring, and not just a quick link to something he found interesting.

Another dribble from the last meeting--he had S share a piece of news with me. I'm sure S didn't know he was being used as a messenger. Something that OD clearly wanted me to know without having to tell me himself. It involves one of his family members and OD taking on something he has no business taking on. My response, meh. His problem, not mine.

In all the imagine of someone sitting next to the pool dipping their toe in comes to mind.

Re: Forgiven, they go free of you, and you of them [Re: OwnIt] #2874327
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It’s certainly is interesting watching the mlcer from afar. Almost like an anthropological study. I hope your kids are faring well with the recent toe dips.

I continue to admire and cheer you on from afar, own!


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Re: Forgiven, they go free of you, and you of them [Re: OwnIt] #2874513
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Today he texted me 8 times. Not sure he did that ever. One, the first, about our D. The next 7 about me. Very odd. No texts to S.

Re: Forgiven, they go free of you, and you of them [Re: OwnIt] #2874547
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holidays bring the MLCr out of the woodwork, eh?

glad for your sangfroid. hard earned, well deserved. very proud of you Own. xoxoxo


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Re: Forgiven, they go free of you, and you of them [Re: OwnIt] #2874668
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Hi Own

Ah the holidays.

Christmas trees, holy, ivy, mistletoe, and MLCers emerging from here and there. smile

Odd indeed.

DnJ


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Re: Forgiven, they go free of you, and you of them [Re: OwnIt] #2874669
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Thanks guys, so right you are. Our universary is in a few weeks and then my big birthday a couple of weeks later. Quite certain he will crawl back in his hole by then.

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Big birthday?

How big?

Oh wait. No. No. Never ask.

Where’s that backspace key?

Arggg. Don’t post.

Smirk.

So if I was to give you the bumps, how many would I have to give?


Oct 8/17 - BD
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M26 T29
w/OM, Left Kids
Dec 9/17 - Legal Separation
Oct 3/18 - W Files
Apr 6/19 - Divorced
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Me52 XW48 S22 S21 S19 D17

I may give up, but not today.
Re: Forgiven, they go free of you, and you of them [Re: OwnIt] #2874703
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Five, but it doesn't pain me much to say it.

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S came to my room last night to tell me that he is seeing OD for visit 3 (I didn't like that S had to text to see if they were still meeting), once again in our town and they are meeting at a store that was founded in the place we spent the first 10 years of our marriage and was one of the common interests that drew us together. Another odd choice.

S broke my heart a bit. He said I know he's probably going to run off again, but he seems very different to me this time. I really think he is getting better and figuring himself out. I just see a very sweet boy who really wants his dad to love him and be in his life. I'm going to hope that OD will do right by him, and to continue warning him just felt wrong. I just said I hope so.

The extra jobs are continuing, even though he lied about that when we met. The proof is unassailable. My sense is that he wasn't lying to hide the money, but rather because he knows what conclusion I would jump to about those jobs, since he did the same thing to me.

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