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kml,

Thinking of you and your family. I pray that he passed quickly and peacefully.


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Prayers for all of you!


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Apparently he's more comfortable without the breathing tube but hasn't passed yet. I can't imagine the stress.

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I know that I find the most inappropriate things funny - but it does sound like a scene out of The Holy Grail - hope you're amused and not offended.


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kml,

Yes, I can imagine the stress. The doctor told my family that if we opted to shut down all machines and take the breathing tube out, my father would pass within minutes. That didn't happen. He gasped for air for over an hour and it was horrible to watch this take place. My father fought like h@ll to live, but eventually his lung function couldn't be maintained and he finally passed.

I don't envy anyone that has to make the decision to end life support for a loved one. In some cases, it's not an easy thing to watch.


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Luckily he seems peaceful and comfortable I'm told.

And yes, Andrew, I know the scene you mentioned wink

I was certainly hoping for a quicker and less ambivalent ending. I'm praying he doesn't end up in a chronic vegetative state ( unlikely, as he has spinal abcesses all the way down his spine as well as multiple strokes and likely to have more.

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This all has me thinking a bit about loneliness, and whether introverts or extroverts cope better with such losses as divorce or death of a spouse.

My sister is very extroverted and has a large circle of friends. On the one hand, I imagine those friendships will sustain her. On the other hand, the loneliness of losing a spouse must be doubly hard for an extrovert. For me, as an introvert (although a pretty outgoing one) time alone is comfortable and a time to recharge. For an extrovert like her, the alone time is excruciating. Thank goodness she has one daughter still living at home and another one who plans to move back in.

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Well, he just passed. My brother said it was very peaceful and calm, thank heaven. Unbelievable to think it was just 14 days ago that he started to feel sick. Boy, life can turn on a dime.

Don't waste too much time on the exes. Life is meant to be LIVED.

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Originally Posted by kml

Don't waste too much time on the exes. Life is meant to be LIVED.



I'm so sorry KML. That was incredibly quick.

Your last quote is so very true.

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I'm so sorry Ellie. We just never know how much time we have. It's important not to waste what we're given and to be grateful. Said more for me than you.

Regarding extrovert vs introvert. I dunno ... I think introverts have a harder time letting people in so when the person they trust most in the world dies or leaves, it's pretty devastating.

That's just my thought though.

Hugs to you and yours xoxoxo


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