Well I finally felt things getting real with the dr. this weekend. She met my dad and step mom on Saturday night, we all went out to dinner together with my girls. Then after dinner we took our first picture together with my girls. Then last night my mom cooked and she came over with her son. Some time during the evening her son started calling me dad and I was like whoa buddy. I reminded him who his dad was and he said you would be my third dad. I told the dr. About it and we got a chuckle out of it, then she laughed and said "I did not put him up to it". Anyway, I am still in no rush but this is getting real!
My parents liked her, my dad told me I was the luckiest mfer alive. I just laughed but other than soccer, work, gym and the dr. Everything is going really well at the moment. I will just continue to ride the wave.
My dad also sat next to the xw at my oldest soccer game on Saturday. That was the first time my parents had seen her since the D. My dad told me that the x asked if he had met the dr. Yet but outside of that they hugged, gave each other a kiss and exchanged I love yous. I thought that was odd but I did tell him to be on his best behavior.
Yeah, things are going really well and she makes things very easy. She really is a high quality person and I am a very blessed man. The longer I have been with her the more I have become attracted to how she is as a person, how she treats me, respects me, etc. I am physically attracted as well but who she is as a person is starting to take over the other.
I am not ready to get married yet but I know it is on her radar screen and she is starting to make more comments about it as the weeks progress. Me not wanting to get married yet has nothing to do with her though and it is all about me still very much enjoying my freedom and alone time the weeks I don't have my girls. She has also not yet met my mom and stepdad which probably won't happen until Christmas unless I make a special trip to see them so she can meet them.
This weekend we are going out on a double date with some friends of hers on Friday night. Then on Saturday we are going out to her Ranch with some other friends of hers as well.
I do feel that things are starting to heat up and move a little faster.
Well my dad says that I am the luckiest man alive and when she asks I would be a fool to say “no”. Truthfully she has not changed since day 1, she is as advertised. Next Friday I am going out to dinner with her mom, sister, and son then will meet her xh at her sons birthday party on Saturday. She still has not met my mom, who is the real gate keeper, so that probably won’t happen until Xmas. The point is that I have some time.
I am not opposed to getting married I just would like some more time alone, by myself, to enjoy the dating process that is all. The excitement of picking her up, not seeing her for a few days, etc. there is something to be said for that.
If she asked me today I would say no and explain my reasons but let her know that I love her, still want to date, be with her, etc. I don’t want to be with anyone else but I am also not ready. I think about my girls, them adjusting, new house, a little brother, all of what goes into blending a family and it just hasn’t been enough time yet for me. The house we live in they were both born in and we have known all of our neighbors for years. We are starting to get more entrenched in each other’s lives but we are not quite their yet.
Yes, I agree. I just think she is getting more comfortable and letting her guard down more. She does make comments here and there but definitely not all the time, I also do not feel any pressure from her. It's just as you move forward in the R, especially at our age, eventually there is a decision that will be made.