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kml,

I am so very sorry to hear about your BIL. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.


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Ohmigosh KML... that sounds nightmarish. So sorry to hear you BIL is going through this. Praying for you and your family. (((HUGS)))

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horrible! my brother from another mother had two bouts with sepsis that almost killed him. my prayers are with your bil, you and your family xoxoxoxo


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Thanks everybody. He had another stroke overnight and the prognosis is dire. They are tweaking his antibiotics and having another staff meeting Friday but honestly, I think it's just to give the family time to come to grips with the idea of pulling the plug on the ventilator. I'm personally hoping that if he's not going to survive, that he dies naturally before then so my sister doesn't have to make that awful decision.

It really teaches two things - we all live in the moment. None of us are guaranteed the future.

Second, there are benefits to cancer as a way to die. You have time to knock some things off your bucket list. You have a chance to reconcile with people in your life. You have time to plan for your survivors. Sudden deaths like this deprive everybody of that closure.

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So sorry to hear that your BIL is in such a bad way and fully understand the way you're thinking.

You are really doing it tough at the moment. I hope you're getting and doing what you need for yourself in amongst being a tower of strength for others. I also hope those others know how lucky they are to have you in their lives.


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(((kml)))


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{{{{{{{kml}}}}}}} I'm so very sorry sweetheart xoxoxo


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So sorry Kml. (((HUGS)))

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Very sorry to hear.....prayers to you and your family.


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So sorry! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.


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