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Re: Worried Moon [Re: bttrfly] #2863419
08/29/19 07:49 PM
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You'll be without your wheels for at least a number of weeks if you go for the repairs. The fact that you are emotionally attached to the car is a factor that can't be ignored either.

Buying used even with a good mechanic's review is always a bit of a crap-shoot IMO. Getting one that is still under warranty is nice as long as your driving keeps you under the warranty for a reasonable amount of time.

The choice is in your hands alone though.


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Re: Worried Moon [Re: bttrfly] #2863432
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Hi bttrfly

Fix your car.

The emotional attachment isn’t to the metal, it’s to the memory. You need to get through that regardless of what you’re driving.

Emotions aside. You love your powerful car, and it gets fixed and with money to spare. If you want to change / upgrade vehicles, and I think you were not considering that before the crash, buy new.

DnJ


Oct 8/17 - BD
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M26 T29
w/OM, Left Kids
Dec 9/17 - Legal Separation
Oct 3/18 - W Files
Apr 6/19 - Divorced
Current
Me52 XW48 S22 S21 S19 D17

I may give up, but not today.
Re: Worried Moon [Re: bttrfly] #2863441
08/29/19 10:59 PM
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think you can get collision insurance on a salvage title?

Re: Worried Moon [Re: bttrfly] #2863457
08/30/19 01:45 AM
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Doodler, you're funny :p

Andrew, my mechanic usually just lets me take the loaner, so I'm not worried. I also negotiated the rental for an extra week. There's one car that I could get that is smaller than mine, not really better gas mileage and a smallish trunk. Financing a little bit on that would put me under $200 a month additional for insurance, excise tax amortized and car payment. It's fine, but meh.

DnJ, it's amazing how once we finished negotiating and I had a solid number the true emotionality of it all subsided. It turned from a throbbing ball of twisted emotions to a long sigh of relief and clear thinking about what is the best thing for me right now. The extra cash would be a nice cushion. I put in the new engine hoping to avoid a car payment for another 50k miles (about 2-3 years). Never in my life have I bought new.

Kml, you are on the right track. I will have collision insurance, but if something happened I would get next to nothing for the car.

This is an absolutely amazing day. First the news from the adjuster, then I went through line item by line item and got extra $$ - I thought it was $500, but it's actually $600 on options they missed (how the heck can you miss a moonroof, when the car doesn't have roof racks?). Then the mechanic tells me the frame wasn't harmed in any way and quoted me less than I thought it would cost to fix my car. Then I find out I have accident forgiveness on the first accident smile thank you to my insurance agent smile and THEN on a hunch I stopped at Lowe's and scored a lovely metal dining table for my patio for $100 and 4 metal chairs with cushions for $62.50. The chairs originally were $250. The table came with swivel chairs and all that sold for over $400. The chairs I bought are from the same company, same color, just stationary which is better for my mom anyway.

I'm tempted to go buy a lottery ticket!!!


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Re: Worried Moon [Re: bttrfly] #2863460
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I’m glad your day was a bright one. An extra $600. A smoking deal on patio furniture. Yeah, get a lotto ticket. smile

Emotions are funny, how they can grab hold of us, and then just as sudden flit away. I bet that long sigh of relief felt really good.

I am wondering if purchasing a brand new car might be something on your bucket list. A couple to three year plan could yield a pretty sweat ride. Besides, you are worth a new car.

DnJ


Oct 8/17 - BD
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M26 T29
w/OM, Left Kids
Dec 9/17 - Legal Separation
Oct 3/18 - W Files
Apr 6/19 - Divorced
Current
Me52 XW48 S22 S21 S19 D17

I may give up, but not today.
Re: Worried Moon [Re: DnJ] #2863465
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Originally Posted by DnJ
I’m glad your day was a bright one. An extra $600. A smoking deal on patio furniture. Yeah, get a lotto ticket. smile

Emotions are funny, how they can grab hold of us, and then just as sudden flit away. I bet that long sigh of relief felt really good.

I am wondering if purchasing a brand new car might be something on your bucket list. A couple to three year plan could yield a pretty sweat ride. Besides, you are worth a new car.

DnJ


Yeah, it did feel really good.
Course it's 2:48 and I'm awake. I did not buy a lotto ticket. Wish I could sleep. Seems I have more praying to do.


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Re: Worried Moon [Re: bttrfly] #2863480
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I'm going to quickly check on mom then drive up to test drive an S60 just to see. I might test drive a few more as well, before making a final decision.

thanks all, for the input.


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Re: Worried Moon [Re: bttrfly] #2863500
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Originally Posted by bttrfly
I might test drive a few more as well, before making a final decision.


.... PRIUS ..... ??? laugh laugh


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D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18
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But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
Re: Worried Moon [Re: bttrfly] #2863590
08/30/19 09:27 PM
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You know, I might need to test drive a Prius just to give DnJ some new adjectives, lol.
I drove a s60, it was fine, fun but not as much as my car. I drove a v60. It was fine. The control panel was a bit crammed in. I didn't care for the design. I LOVED the new xc40. They had one with an ivory/white top and cherry red body. SWEET. but SO FAR out of my price range.

I spoke to my mechanic, and the boys (my mechanic and his #1 who are in their early 30s and love what they do) are super excited to fix my car. One was ready to jump on it immediately as soon as he saw no frame damage because they know how much I love my car, and they also love it, having done a ton of work to practically rebuild it, at this point. It is eminently fixable, and I can have it back as soon as next Thursday when the rental runs out.

So, decision made. Keeping my car. Title stays clean, so it's not a salvage title. The carfax would read total loss for a prospective buyer down the road, but I will keep all receipts and photos of damage before and after, so that's cool. Anyone wanting this car is going to be another crazy V70R M AWD enthusiast, so that won't matter to them.

Thanks for taking the journey with me to get here.

Work is heating up as we have a huge event on the 9th plus the pending hurricane. We've got a team assembled and ready to head to FL as soon as it's safe to do so to help our clients there and anyone else who needs our help. We've already been hit with a ton of calls. Doodler, stay safe. We need you to live to skinny dip another day, Dude, lol!


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Re: Worried Moon [Re: bttrfly] #2863734
09/01/19 07:58 PM
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