I know there's a temptation to look. I saw a really cute woman on POF where I lurk a year or so older than I am who describes herself as a "sapiophile", has masses of freckles and I DIDN'T CONTACT HER.
We both need time to heal ourselves and not use someone else to do it.
How about we both put a mark in the sand and hold each other accountable and not reach out for another partner until September 28th at the earliest. Deal?
You can do this - but you've got to heal first and fully let go of "what could have been" first.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
I gave myself almost almost 3 months after breaking things off with last boyfriend. And I was the one to end things. I was very busy. And just needed to evaluate. I was pretty depressed and in a bad mood during that time. Not because I missed him. More because, I didnít understand why I was ever even with him.
I canít say that I went back on line a fully healed person. I donít believe thatís even possible. And people that think that way will end up never partnering. Iím wondering if itís just a matter of finding a partner thatís dysfunctions mesh with yours in a non abusive way? Kind of like Don finding someone else that wants a casual relationship. Or me, that doesnít mind clinging and feels safe with it? Or maybe a balance between being capable of being vulnerable but healthy enough to maintain personal boundaries and willingness to let go or experience loss when those needs arenít met.
I had posted in your last thread to google the term ďlove addictĒ. Someone just told me about it yesterday. It kind of fits in with codependency but a bit different. Do you see yourself in that role?