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I think the right thing to do is the humane thing to do, meaning contact, keeping right up front that this in no way, shape or form allows him back in as your boyfriend.

capisce?

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Yep karma and I wouldn’t reach out but if you do and he responds you can’t get sucked back in


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I’m so sad for them. But I no way want anything from him and he I am sure wants nothing from me. He goes into robot mode with this stuff.

He had his house and belongings taken from him in the divorce and now again.

I am looking at the article and there is a video and him in it, his mom and his sister in law

My heart breaks, but I am no longer a part of his life and he no longer wants me there.

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you no longer want to be there, remember?


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I don’t. I just did love the people who are affected and they were apart of my life for a year.

And selfishly, I was doing so well. And not great right now. I guess I feel powerless. Because I am.

I swear, I can’t make this stuff up.

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Oh, and want to laugh? The firefighter I dated lives a few blocks away and worked for one of the cities who responded. He could have been on scene

Some days, I feel like moving far far away and starting over

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He fired you from the job of worrying about him.

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It just came on the local news channel and I had to jump up to shut it off because D11 just got home. And it’s starts with “a dog died” and she would be devastated if she found out it was the dog she loved so much.

I’m not doing too hot.

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it's ok to feel bad for them. it's ok to reach out . you would be heartless if you didn't feel something. just don't get sucked back in.


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Just remember he was fine before you G....not your job any more


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M: 46, W: 45. D: 10. D: 8 (CUR)
Bomb Dropped: 5/28/2017
Separation Date: 6/17/2017
Divorce Filed: 2/7/2018
Divorce Final: 4/12/2018
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