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Re: These Old Shades [Re: bttrfly] #2862410
08/22/19 01:06 PM
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Bummer about the car. Yes if the frame is twisted there's no way they'll let you put it back on the road. Hopefully when you get your settlement it's decent. I went on AutoTrader and Kijiji when I totalled mine about 10 years ago and found a similar car - high miles Toyota Echo and the insurance agent offered me to within a few bucks of what they were going for there. I believe your car is somewhat unique - being forearmed with that info might help.

For me, I'm going to be replacing my old Corolla - 0 to 60 in probably 5 minutes with an even lower powered Toyota C-HR. It's a comfortable car, kind of funky looking and will pull my little sailboat with little trouble I think. I tend to buy new and drive them in to the ground though. I'm more about practical, economical and slightly funky that the zoom zoom thing. My dream car - if I had a really short commute would be a Peel P50. One of the things B had to "unlearn" was her expectation was that I was a fully loaded big luxury car guy - like her ex and what I liked surprised her.

If you do consider used, a few friends of mine have had good luck with used luxury and sports cars. You "really" want to have a good mechanic in your pocket but from what they tell me the resale market for such cars is fairly reasonably priced. You'll pay extra to repair it of course, but you'll get your pep and performance. I believe that job is our resident gear-head - perhaps she has some input on that.

Glad you're feeling better ((bttrfly)) - it's a shame that all of this is happening at once on top of everything else you've been dealing with. Be kind to yourself and maybe get some extra wolf time.


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Re: These Old Shades [Re: bttrfly] #2862427
08/22/19 03:09 PM
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Just popping in to offer my love and support with a big fat (((cwtch)))

Re: These Old Shades [Re: bttrfly] #2862440
08/22/19 03:56 PM
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Job, yes I've spent some time on CarMax this morning. My car buddy is trying to tell me this is like dating. When I told him I've been on about 3 dates since exh left, he said, "Well, you better step it up with the car shopping or you'll be walking to work."

yup.

I'm looking at the S60 as a possibility, but concerns about the legroom in the back seat. I really like having a wagon. I can't go from 300 hp to the 185 in my rental. So boring. Maybe a XC70 is in my future.

I'm going to test drive some used Subarus just because I'm supposed to shop around.

Andrew, I've never ever bought a new car in my life. I don't want to take the hit on depreciation. I buy used and drive them into the ground. I've only had two volvos, both used, but I've made them last 20 years.They were both 3 years old when I bought them. I had each for 10 years. The sedan was fun, but I prefer the roominess of the wagon, as I'm always hauling stuff here and there, plus I want my dog with me and now that he's getting older, I'd like to put in an orthopedic bed rather than just his blanket so he is really comfy.

So, I guess I'll be driving lots of cars over the next little while until I find the right one. But, holy moly. I do NOT need this right now.

I'm going to leave work early and nap then meet the hospice social worker with my mom late afternoon. Westo thank you for the big fat (((cwtch))) and back at you.

I'm at my desk here at work and I'm just wiped. And Job, the neon orange side effect would be cool if I had a black light in my bathroom! But I am feeling a little dizzy, which is another side effect. I'm going to have some water and salt. Thanks G for that suggestion.

thank you everyone. xoxo


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Re: These Old Shades [Re: bttrfly] #2862441
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oh the frame rail is bent.


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Re: These Old Shades [Re: bttrfly] #2862452
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I'm used to a high performance 300 hp 6 speed manual that goes from 0-60 in 5.6 seconds.


Well then you wouldn't like my suggestion to get a good reliable Honda or Toyota. LOL. I'm like Andrew - buy them new (you don't really take much of a hit on economy cars if you get a good deal and buy them with no frills added, and I like knowing all maintenance has been done on time) and drive them forever. I do like my RAV4 for transporting my instruments but a wagon is probably better for your dog because the SUV rides high, it would be hard to get an old dog into it.

Whatever you get remember this might be your last car, as self driving cars that we just call up on demand will probably be the norm in ten or fifteen years.

And yes - let go or be dragged needs to be your mantra right now. All of this loss and stress (even the good stress of moving into your new home) is an enormous load. You can probably use some adrenal support (I like Dr. Wilson's Adrenal Rebuilders from ICA). SAMe, ST. John's Wort, or high dose methylfolate (at 15 mg/d) may be helpful for depression. Don't forget to exercise, and work on building your social connections where you are.

Re: These Old Shades [Re: kml] #2862470
08/22/19 05:59 PM
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I have two Toyotas. One is a Highlander and the other is a Camry. The Highlander will give you plenty of room and will seat 8 comfortably. I purchased it back in 2008 for when my father was very ill and required to go to the hospital in DC. I love it more than I do my 2014 Camry. It's good on gas and has been steady and good on snow. The Camry is a nice car as well. I always purchase new and most new cars now offer up to 2 years free oil change, etc.

Honda, Toyota and Subaru do not depreciate like the American made cars. Those three are the most reliable in my area. Very seldom do you see them in the shop for work other than the usual upkeep. Now is the time to purchase a new car or even a used one. All of the dealerships are attempting to off load their 2019's and their used cars. You might find a really good deal between now and Labor Day.

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Oh yeah, good point - it IS the best time of year to buy.

Re: These Old Shades [Re: bttrfly] #2862474
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Iíve got a Jeep Cherokee which is pretty much zero fun, but Iíve got room, and itís really good in the snow and I have a job where I need to get to work . Itís very reliable and great on gas. I donít drive anymore no that I live 10 min from work. There are no snow days. Next year depending on my situation I might get the wrangler Iíve always wanted next year for my 40th self birthday present.

Subaruís are nice and reliable and fast, but expensive to fix.

Try to make this test driving as much fun as you can!

Re: These Old Shades [Re: job] #2862480
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Originally Posted by job
All of the dealerships are attempting to off load their 2019's and their used cars. You might find a really good deal between now and Labor Day.
As a bit of inside baseball I do know that auto-makers have overbuilt inventory and are really cutting back. Some of our business here where we sell in to those companies have volumes that are way down and nobody is investing in plants or big changes to model lines. If they are hurting like they were back in 2008 along with the historic low interest rates there undoubtedly will be some deals out there in the next short while. Or so I hope as I need a new car too.

On the other hand the local buy/sell page has a 1929 Chevrolet International for sale and the Planetary society is giving away a 1965 VW Convertible Bug that has been converted to electric.

Could electric be an option for you bttrfly? You'll usually get that torque you like with that power train. Maybe DnJ will weigh in about his Prius' (which I know isn't on your list).


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Re: These Old Shades [Re: bttrfly] #2862503
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Originally Posted by AndrewP
Maybe DnJ will weigh in about his Prius

Originally Posted by bttrfly
I'm used to a high performance 300 hp 6 speed manual that goes from 0-60 in 5.6 seconds.

smile smile

Iím not sure we could get two more similar (cause their both cars) yet different vehicles.

The 2019 Prius has a more zippy motor, 120 hp. No transmission, no gears, more like a variable transmission. 0-60? Iíll let you know when I finally reach it. LOL. Never timed it. It is rather peppy when needed though. My current average efficiency is 4.2 L/100 kM, or 67 m/gal(imp), or 56 m/gal(us).

I drive a lot, in three months Iíve put on 16,000 kms. The money saved on fuel would make the car payment, and then some.

The car is super comfortable, and loaded with all kinds of features. Oh, and 4 wheel drive - rear wheels are electric and turn on when needed.

My car has a bit of a special story. It is the first one delivered and sold in Canada. Kind of cool. For a while I was the only 2019 Prius around.

You should take one for a test drive. You could rule it out, and have a little fun while doing it. OR who knows... itís a really nice car. smile

DnJ


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