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Turn the Page #2857612
07/18/19 08:21 PM
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For those playing the at-home version, I'm moving on to a new thread since the old one was at 99 posts. Not that I anticipate a flood of posts added to that one, but you never know. LOL It is easier to just move on now, so in the immortal words of Mr. Bob Seger, I'm turning the page. Here's what happened before:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2841624#Post2841624

I was going to start this post by saying what a sh!t show some things have been lately, but I again decided to rely on Bob Seger and just turn the page and roll on. I choose to focus on some good things that have happened, particularly today.

I have planned a girls' trip with my mom, sis and niece to go visit my aunt for my mom's birthday and I'm so looking forward to it. My aunt and uncle live in Houston and they have a nice house with a pool, so it should be a nice, relaxing little get-away. My sister is going to drive and I will navigate so that will be relaxing too, since the GPS can do most of the work there.

Had a GREAT talk with my boss this morning. Part of the sh!t show has been budget issues on our campus, but he was asking this morning how long I had been here and he told me that I am doing an amazing job and that once the budget issues are cleared up, he plans to go to admin and make a case for getting me a raise. I make decent money, but he says that he thinks he can make a very strong case to raise my base because of all the extra stuff I have been willing to do and the department has come to rely on my doing. I know he can't make any promises, but yay! It is nice to be appreciated.

Relationship is going well. We have plans to have dinner with our wedding officiant and his wife tomorrow night and we are both so looking forward to that. They are amazing people whom I have I know for quite a long time and they seem to really like Sparky too, so win/win. We are working on some wedding planning, got our menu and decorations figured out and waiting to hear back from the church about using it. We continue to communicate well and things just really seem to be comfortable and easy. It is a nice place to be.

Life is good. I heard a song on the radio earlier today and the chorus said something about "life is short, so make it sweet." Yep............great advice. It sure has been sweet lately. laugh


Me 49, XH 51
3 adult daughters from his first marriage
3 grandsons, 1 granddaughter
My 1st marriage, his 2nd
BD 9/29/2014
H moved out 10/6/2014
H filed D 11/4/2014
D final 12/17/2014
Re: Turn the Page [Re: Dawn70] #2858702
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Caution: long, rant/journal post ahead so I can get things off my mind and chest. If you don't want to know, stop reading now.......................................................

Those who are nearest and dearest to me know that I'm a music fan and like all types of music (with a few exceptions). I'm not particularly a fan of newer country music because it is just too pop for my taste (not that I dislike pop music, mind you, but if I want pop, I'll listen to pop, not country masquerading as pop). The so-called "bro country" that prevails now is just not my thing. And, while I like a few of their songs here and their, I'm not a fan of either Luke Bryan or Jason Aldean with their bejeweled butt jeans that are girlier than those that most girls wear. Give me Merle Haggard, Hank Williams Junior, Randy Travis, Ricky Skaggs, etc, any day. Having said all that, though, there is one particular Jason Aldean song that I do like. I like it enough, in fact, that I have it on my iTunes. "Any 'Ol Barstool" was one of my divorce songs and it is quite fitting of that time in my life. The first line says "guess you heard I was pedal to the metal on the downhill slide". I feel that lyric down to my very core today. It is like everything is stacking up on me and I just can't stop it. I took yesterday off because I have had a long and frustrating week and I just could NOT with people yesterday. I had a ton of stuff I wanted/needed to do at work, but I needed a day for my own mental health and it was glorious. I slept late, cuddled with my dog, took a nap, watched crappy reality shows (yes, I know they are not REAL reality, but I don't care), began working on tackling the junk pile that my spare room has become, and worked on some details for an upcoming road trip with my fam. It was just what I needed. I came back to work today, thinking that I knew what was supposed to happen with today's class and when I texted the person they told me they weren't coming. Uh, I have had you on my calendar for 2 months now and you stood at my desk and watched me write it on my calendar, so why didn't you say something then? But, ok, my bad...............fortunately, the next class on the list was an easy set, so I went in and got it all set up then let the actual instructor know about the change in schedule. Ugh!

In addition to my own job and all of its responsibilities, 2 other faculty have asked me to deal with responsibilities that are their semi-personal responsibilities. One of those "favors" ends early next week when said faculty returns from a trip out of the country. The other "favor" doesn't end until January. That is a LONG damn time to be doing someone a favor, but I am too nice for my own good sometime. On top of those and the additional course load I'm under for the fall semester thanks to these same 2 individuals taking a semester off, I come back to my office after scrambling to get class ready to find an e-mail from the university president's office that I have been assigned to the busiest committee on campus as a faculty member because they have to have X number of faculty, staff, administrators, students on all campus-wide committees. The one I'm on is tasked with very specific student issues dealing with disciplinary hearings and the like and they meet a LOT. Seriously? THIS fall, when I am teaching 2 extra labs and an additional lecture course that I have NEVER taught before. I will have my biggest course load I have had the whole time I have been here and extra responsibilities related to the 2 faculty who will be off and THAT is the semester they decide to put me on a committee? And it is the busiest one on campus? REALLY??????????????????????????? I am co-advisor for a campus honor society and my partner in that has a ton of medical issues going on right now which throws a lot of responsibility for that group on me plus I have to order all the supplies and do all the budget stuff for my entire department. I'm tired just thinking about it. I just keep telling myself, I got the lab down, because it is the same one I have been teaching since I got here, the honor society kids can kind of do their own thing most of the time and just need me to approve stuff usually, and the lecture class means extra money, so there is an upside. Extra money right before our wedding? Yes, please!

On top of all the work-related stuff, my oldest daughter is turning 30 this Saturday. For MONTHS now, her sisters, her mom and I (I am her step-mother for those of you who don't know the back story), have been planning a weekend of surprises for her. Now, I will say it here but I will not point it out to anyone this weekend, but this was my idea from the beginning and I have done the bulk of the work and I'm not necessarily complaining about that because I'm a bit of a control freak and it is on me because I put it on myself, but it has been stressful trying to budget and stay on budget then communicate with 3 other people on getting stuff done and coordinating things and then, her mother backs out of the whole shooting match. Granted, she did it for a valid reason. Her husband has been having some big issue going on and he finally got to see a specialist last week because they had been worrying he might have cancer, but turns out he has compression fracture of his spine (I'm sure I'm not wording that correctly because I'm not a doctor, but that is what I understood her to tell me). He had some kind of surgery late last week and is home from the hospital, but on lots of meds and they live in South Texas, so she doesn't want to get that far from him and he is not up to riding that far to come up here with her. Ok, fine, that is all understandable and I'm not upset with her over it because I understand. It has forced my other daughters and I to be a tad bit more creative with how to work the logistics, but it is all working out fine. What I AM frustrated with their mother over is she is the queen of guilt trips and fakery (not sure that is a word but it is now) so I keep getting all these sickly sweet phone calls and texts from her about how sad she is to miss it and she's crying thinking about it and she loves her girls, but she has to put her man first. If she wasn't one to ALWAYS put her man first (particularly when she first started dating him when the girls were teens and constantly choosing him over them) it would be one thing, but with her history, it all just comes across as annoying. Like I said, I get he's had health issues and I don't blame her one bit for backing out, but it is the way she keeps talking about it that is annoying to me. She's one of those people who would put $20 in the offering plate at church then tell everyone for the next month about that time that she put $20 in the offering plate at church as though she'd done the greatest thing ever...you know what I mean? It is hard to explain here, particularly if you don't know her (or someone like her) but trust me when I say, on top of everything else going on right now, I do not need her to constantly apologize for "putting her man first" and wanting to cry because she's missing her daughter's birthday. Get over it, lady! Being an adult [censored] sometimes and you have to face choices. All you can do is all you can do, so suck it up and live with it. And leave me the F*(K ALONE!

Again on the positive side, all I have left to do to prep for this little weekend shindig is get the stuff for my part of Friday night's meal, load everything in my truck and go early to set up while her sisters keep her occupied then bring her to "meet Dawn for dinner to celebrate her birthday". She has wanted to stay in a yurt for a long time, so I rented a yurt on a lake at one of our state parks. The girls and I are going to swim, relax, do DIY facials, complete with homemade facial scrub that each will get to take home (yes, I made scrub, because I didn't have enough to do already....told y'all I was controlling!), and eat yummy snacks. I'm making walking tacos and fajita pinwheels and margarita strawberries. Yummy! Saturday morning, we are going to get up and take her to Hot Springs for a spa day at a fancy hotel downtown. After that, we have invited her mother-in-law and sisters-in-law and friends to meet us for lunch at a popular restaurant. Then, we will take her back to the yurt and her husband and sweet boys will be waiting to surprise her and spend Saturday with her to celebrate her birthday. The girls and I are paying for everything so all she has to do is relax and enjoy. I just hope she is surprised and enjoys it all. It has been a lot of work to put it all together and to keep it a secret from her, but it will be worth it. All she knows is that we are taking her for a girl's weekend get-away. She has no idea what we are doing, where we are staying, or that her husband and boys will be with her Saturday night.

I'm tired already and it hasn't even begun yet, but Sunday, I will be chilling in my recliner, napping. Poor Sparky got dragged into helping with prep stuff, but that is what partners are for, right? LOL I'm gonna owe him BIG after this weekend. laugh


Me 49, XH 51
3 adult daughters from his first marriage
3 grandsons, 1 granddaughter
My 1st marriage, his 2nd
BD 9/29/2014
H moved out 10/6/2014
H filed D 11/4/2014
D final 12/17/2014
Re: Turn the Page [Re: Dawn70] #2858728
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First of all - that sounds like the best birthday EVER!

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I have been assigned to the busiest committee on campus as a faculty member because they have to have X number of faculty, staff, administrators, students on all campus-wide committees. The one I'm on is tasked with very specific student issues dealing with disciplinary hearings and the like and they meet a LOT. Seriously? THIS fall, when I am teaching 2 extra labs and an additional lecture course that I have NEVER taught before. I will have my biggest course load I have had the whole time I have been here and extra responsibilities related to the 2 faculty who will be off and THAT is the semester they decide to put me on a committee? And it is the busiest one on campus? REALLY??????????????????????????? I am co-advisor for a campus honor society and my partner in that has a ton of medical issues going on right now which throws a lot of responsibility for that group on me plus I have to order all the supplies and do all the budget stuff for my entire department.


You know you COULD just tell them that you have all those responsibilities this semester and isn't there anybody else they could assign to that committee? They are probably not thinking (or knwing) that you have all of that other stuff on your plate.

Re: Turn the Page [Re: Dawn70] #2858790
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Thanks kml! My daughter deserves it. She works full time and takes care of the house, her husband and their 2 rambunctious boys. The younger of the 2 boys has Down’s syndrome so there are a lot of medical appointments and other things to deal with and she handles it all like a pro. She never complains and is always quick to help anyone. When I called her husband to tell him what we were planning, the first thing he said was “that’s great, she deserves it”. If God himself had spoken to me and said He was going to gift me with the ability to “build” the perfect man for my daughter, her husband is the exact man I would’ve created. They are an amazing, beautiful couple and I couldn’t be prouder of them. This weekend is about D30, though, because she never puts herself first, so her sisters and I will, if only for a couple of days.


Me 49, XH 51
3 adult daughters from his first marriage
3 grandsons, 1 granddaughter
My 1st marriage, his 2nd
BD 9/29/2014
H moved out 10/6/2014
H filed D 11/4/2014
D final 12/17/2014
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Metallica does a great cover of "Turn The Page"...…….


Married 14, Together 17
M: 44, W: 43, D: 8, D: 6
M: 46, W: 45. D: 10. D: 8 (CUR)
Bomb Dropped: 5/28/2017
Separation Date: 6/17/2017
Divorce Filed: 2/7/2018
Divorce Final: 4/12/2018
Re: Turn the Page [Re: TBSakaJ9] #2859190
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Originally Posted by TBSakaJ9
Metallica does a great cover of "Turn The Page"...…….


I have heard a recorded version of theirs and it is excellent. I haven't heard it live. I have heard some others live that were quite good. Surprisingly, the one I liked best was done by a new country group called Midland when I saw them opening a concert last fall. I was rather surprised at how good they really were.

I'm claiming success on the weekend surprise birthday. D30 was SO excited to be staying in a yurt, as it is something that she has wanted to do for a long time. We managed to keep everything a surprise from her and her sisters even had her about half convinced that we were taking her skydiving. What we really did was took her to one of the fanciest hotels in downtown Hot Springs (the Arlington) and got manis and pedis. We hung out at the yurt Friday night and ate snacks and enjoyed adult beverages and girl talk, then I brought all the stuff to do facials, so that was super cool and relaxing. Got up Saturday morning and set out for spa treatments, then met up with some of her close friends for lunch. Then I had to shag out to attend another family event at my sister's house, but they all went back to the yurt to swim and hang out.

I'm glad it all went off without a hitch. And, I'm glad she had a good time. It was nice to see her really enjoying everything and just being able to relax and let others take care of her for once. She works hard taking care of her family. I am thankful for Sparky because he went and picked up the cake and flowers and other decorations for the restaurant and brought them and helped me get the table decorated there while Ds26 and 28 kept D30 occupied.

I worked hard on this whole thing and it came together nicely but I was just exhausted when it was all said and done Saturday evening. I went home and tried to watch a movie with Sparky but I just couldn't even stay awake. Was in bed by 10:00. Yesterday, I slept until 8:00 which is LATE for me (yes, I'm old) and then when we both got up and around, Sparky cooked me breakfast and we just chilled. He had to go home early because his mom needed him to do something for her, so he left around 11:00, when he usually stays until 4:00 or 5:00, but I used the time to myself to nap, drink beer, and just generally be lazy, so it was all good.

Back to the grind today. Committee meetings tomorrow and Wednesday. In my office Thursday, then off Friday and Monday to road trip with my mom, sis and niece to Houston so my mom can spend her birthday with her sister. If y'all need me next weekend, I'll be the fat chick chilling by the pool at my aunt's house with some sort of fruity drink or ice cold beer in my hand. wink


Me 49, XH 51
3 adult daughters from his first marriage
3 grandsons, 1 granddaughter
My 1st marriage, his 2nd
BD 9/29/2014
H moved out 10/6/2014
H filed D 11/4/2014
D final 12/17/2014
Re: Turn the Page [Re: Dawn70] #2859720
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Well, this week has just been a whirlwind and I'm SO glad today is my Friday. While in my office Monday, I found out that one of the 2 ladies who is on the custodial staff in our building is leaving our university. She's a bright, positive, hard-working young woman and her presence in our building will be missed as she always has a smile and a friendly word for everyone when she sees them. Because of the nature of my job, I interact with her more than some of the others do, but everyone likes her. So, one of my counterparts has been collecting money this week and I am going out to find a going-away gift for the young lady to give her this afternoon. I have been emotional lately, so I hope I don't cry, as that will just seem weird. LOL

Tuesday evening, Sparky and I ate dinner with the man who is officiating our wedding and his wife. They have been friends of mine for years and they really seem to like Sparky as well. We had a great evening with a delicious meal and wonderful company/conversation. Sparky even stayed over after, so that was a nice little weekday surprise.

Big news hit me Tuesday night after we returned from their house....my youngest daughter called me to let me know she is pregnant. Y'all, I screamed and cried like a little girl. I'm SO excited for her. She and her husband had me on speaker phone to tell me and her husband kept asking about Sparky and I told them he was with me, so they were glad he got to find out with me. He, too (Sparky), is SO excited. It was so cute. He got all excited and could not stop smiling and he kept saying "I'm gonna be a grandpa".......so precious! We haven't been able to tell anyone yet because they aren't announcing it until she is a little farther along, but they told all the parents and her sisters (SIL is an only child). We are all just so beyond excited.

Part of the tears Tuesday night were from something that happened the previous Saturday during our spa visit. The girls were getting pedis and I was sitting in the 4th pedi chair enjoying a nice massage and we were all chatting with the 2 ladies who were doing the pedis and one of the girls said something about my wedding and we discussed that briefly. One of the ladies then asked a few details about when and such. Conversation flowed on to various topics and then one of the spa ladies looked at me and asked if I was "mom" so I said no, stepmom. So, she asked if I was marrying their dad. I explained that no, I had been married to their dad and was divorced from him and now marrying someone else. The girls all jumped in with how important I was to them and how we had a great relationship though I wasn't still married to their dad and they even said that I raised them. All said without any prompting from me or spa lady of any kind. So, the spa lady quickly covered her initial look of shock and confusion and after the girls outpouring of love and support, she looked at me again and then looked at them and said "so, she's mom" and they all said yes. Y'all............................................I can't even! I'm tearing up now thinking about it. Seriously. I know the girls love me and think I'm important or they wouldn't continue to let me have as much of a place in their life as they do, but to have actual validation in front of complete strangers was just absolutely amazing. These girls..............:D

Oh and by the way, the committee training I was dreading was actually quite good. I learned a lot and while I hope I don't have to use it, as it was a bit overwhelming, it was a good, productive 2 days of training and for that I'm thankful. Now, I have set up lab for today and need to get a few other things accomplished in addition to my going away gift shopping, then I'm outta here til Tuesday. Headed to Houston with my mom, sis, and niece tomorrow to spend a few days with my aunt and uncle and just enjoy being away from home. My mom's birthday is tomorrow, so this is really about her, but we are all looking forward to the trip.

Life is oh so good, my DB friends!


Me 49, XH 51
3 adult daughters from his first marriage
3 grandsons, 1 granddaughter
My 1st marriage, his 2nd
BD 9/29/2014
H moved out 10/6/2014
H filed D 11/4/2014
D final 12/17/2014
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Back to the grind yet again. After my last post a week ago, I was off Friday, Monday and Tuesday. My sister, niece and I took my mom to Houston to spend the weekend with our aunt (her sister). We had a blast. I stayed home Monday and Tuesday to just rest and relax. Travel makes me tired.

I worked my @$$ off yesterday at work because we are in the home stretch before classes begin and I had a ton of stuff that I needed to get finished. I'm still working and will have some long, busy days between now and August 20 (first day of classes). But, I'm ready for it to get here to get started.

Sparky and I are working through the particulars of merging our finances. We need to start buying some things for the wedding and there is some work that needs to be done on his house and I don't feel like it is fair that should all be on him or all on me, so we decided merging our money now might be wisest as it would allow us both to have more resources and get moving forward on some things. Unlike my first marriage, there shouldn't be an issue with putting my name on his house, as the house is paid for, so it will just be a matter of filing for an amended title in both of our names and will probably amount to some filing/paperwork fees, so that is a good thing. This is getting so super real now and I'm excited, but also a little nervous. Things go so well with me and Sparky. We rarely disagree on things and even when we do, it is minor and we communicate super effectively/efficiently. I have seen him angry and he has seen me angry and we both have a knack for calming each other down. Occasionally, his super zen mode will kind of annoy me, but we communicated about it and he understands why that is. I didn't ask him to change it because that wouldn't be fair of me to do so, but I did ask him to respect when I'm in that mood that finds the zen annoying and to approach me a little differently initially. So far so good. I make a little more money than Sparky does, but we have agreed that while daily expenses like skoal for him or the occasional kitchen towel or smelly good something or other for our house are fine expenditures to make without checking, big purchases should definitely be cleared with the other first. My XH and I did our budgeting that way and it actually worked pretty well. Sparky is fine with letting me "handle" the checkbook as far as keeping it balanced and such because I'm kind of a control freak about that and he doesn't like to do it, but we'll pay bills together. We are going to sit down this weekend and go over a budget and then within the next few weeks, we are going to add him to my existing account. Like I said, we are excited about it, but also a little nervous because this just makes it all the more real. I think I learned some very valuable lessons the first time around and those will serve me well as I prepare to go down this road for the 2nd (and final) time.

I had to take a break for a few minutes from what I was working on, but I need to get back to it. No rest for the weary, as they say. wink


Me 49, XH 51
3 adult daughters from his first marriage
3 grandsons, 1 granddaughter
My 1st marriage, his 2nd
BD 9/29/2014
H moved out 10/6/2014
H filed D 11/4/2014
D final 12/17/2014
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Originally Posted by Dawn70
So far so good. I make a little more money than Sparky does, but we have agreed that while daily expenses like skoal for him or the occasional kitchen towel or smelly good something or other for our house are fine expenditures to make without checking, big purchases should definitely be cleared with the other first. My XH and I did our budgeting that way and it actually worked pretty well. Sparky is fine with letting me "handle" the checkbook as far as keeping it balanced and such because I'm kind of a control freak about that and he doesn't like to do it, but we'll pay bills together. We are going to sit down this weekend and go over a budget and then within the next few weeks, we are going to add him to my existing account.
What my ex-wife and I did and it worked very well for us was to every week withdraw a certain amount of cash - I think it was $50 each for us to do with what we wished. This started when we were first married as we made significantly different amounts of money although we made equal contributions to the family. Anything beyond that we would (usually) talk over first unless it was a planned expense like groceries.

Like you I'm a bit of a control freak and after my ex - who worked as a book-keeper - was doing our books and we nearly went bankrupt I took them over. We used an app called YNAB (we never upgraded to the cloud version) that allowed both of us to see on our devices or the computer what was budgeted and what we spent / had available. This helped because my ex wouldn't enter in her receipts on the computer but being able to do it on her IPad worked.

What we would also do is on the last weekend of the month is that I would review any planned expenses doing up a draft budget. Then on Sunday we would go out for breakfast, review how we did the past month, go over the upcoming month comparing it to the prior year. This worked well for us and we managed to go from pretty much bankrupt to being rid of all consumer debt and having the mortgage paid down quite a bit along with 2 new(ish) cars right around the time her affair started frown

Some variation of this might work for you guys - just putting it out there on what worked here.


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T27, M26
S21, D23
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Re: Turn the Page [Re: Dawn70] #2860714
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Thanks for the thoughts, Andrew. My XH and I also did something similar. We would each take out X amount of cash at the beginning of the week for incidentals. At first my XH was reticent to do that, as with his first XW, she kept track of all the money and she would "give" him cash each week and he felt like it was an allowance and he didn't want that, but as I pointed out to him, if we were both going and taking the cash independently of each other, but putting it in our budget, then it was simply making a withdrawal from our joint account, not either of us giving the other an allowance. He and I also tried that sitting down to budget thing, but because he was like an ADHD kid hopped up on sugar when it came to buying things, he was hard to budget plan with.

Sparky and I have already talked about it and we do actually plan to do similar to what you and your XW did. We are going to sit down Saturday and look at what our income is and what our expenses are and put a budget on paper. We want to do that before we do any account swapping, just to be sure we are on the same page and that we are aware of each other's current financial situation/debt load. Neither of us have much debt outside of current living expenses and some credit card debt, but we both think that with a plan, we can get it paid down pretty quickly.

We will likely adopt a similar method that you and your XW had as I think both of us have the right personalities and "needs" to make that work for us, where my XH was kind of weird about money.


Me 49, XH 51
3 adult daughters from his first marriage
3 grandsons, 1 granddaughter
My 1st marriage, his 2nd
BD 9/29/2014
H moved out 10/6/2014
H filed D 11/4/2014
D final 12/17/2014
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