TBSakaJ9 - All of these scenarios require the W to "wake up" and see value in the LBS at some point.
Yes....eventually the W has to wake up but you have no idea what will cause her to do it. It could be you or it could have nothing to do with you.
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It also means limbo is likely to last much much longer, I agree.
Your limbo will last until either you get tired of it and file yourself or your W is comfortable and has found another man to bounce to.
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I struggle with wondering how long I should "stand" for something that may well be an incredibly unhealthy situation for me.
Only you can answer that question but make no mistake about it this is a soft Divorce. Your W will likely be dating or bring another man into your home the moment you move out. My XW was out dating and partying no less than a month after we separated.
While I have never heard the way your wife talks about you, I find it hard to believe that she really believes that you are a danger to your children. This is based solely on the limit information you have shared about these incidents with your kids. I think she is using this attack to throw you off. To make you question yourself, and to put pressure on you.
If I were you I would deny emphatically that you have done anything to suggest that you are a danger to your children. This seems like a ridiculous accusation, and I would start dismissing her out of hand that you ever did anything to endanger your kids. Period.
