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I'm at the point now with her being at her parents house recovering for 2 months from the lung issue and now much better (1/2 mile away) and the kids sleeping back and forth bc some days I can go to work late asking her "What is so bad in our marriage that can't be worked on.

So turn. Been all about 180 and GAL and getting the boys out on the boat.

Thoughts? Or just let it lay and the option work on stuff or D is in her hands. Right?


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I am having a little trouble following this last post. Are you asking if you should ask her What is so bad in our marriage that can't be worked on?"

The answer is NO. Do not ask that.


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Yes, That is what I was asking.


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JR,

You can ask that question but you better be prepared to get kicked in the nuts.

LBS have this fantasy that if they ask that question the WW will say “ you know what? That’s a great idea why didn’t I think of that first?”

You’ll know if and when she’s ready to work on it.

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Originally Posted by LH19
You can ask that question but you better be prepared to get kicked in the nuts.


In fact, just walk up to a random stranger and offer them 20 dollars to swiftly kick you in the nuts. It's a far better alternative than the temperature check you're thinking about.


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10 4

Always love the brutal truth to straighten me out.

As always

thx


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I agree. Don't ever ask that. Before I found this site, before I confirmed PA. I went for a long "Walk" with the WW trying to just talk. I was simply trying to validate her feelings and see if I could gain a foothold on working on our MR. Bad idea. It turned into an hour of her kicking me in the nuts. Sure, she wanted me to just validate everything including all of her unjustified views that her and OM made up to give her "reasons" why she was cheating. F**K that noise! Don't do it.


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JR,

Brutal honesty is the only way to go. We're not here to blow smoke up your a$$.

Trust us we saved you a lot of pain.

Keep moving forward!

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She set up this program for the town through the department she is the Director of and last night was the launch info night. Should I text her this message or do nothing? Validation is her number one Love Language.

"The Mayors Fitness program you set up looks cool and it's very impressive. I hope it does well. "

Thanks


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