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Originally Posted by curtis7
Originally Posted by Steve85

I'd say: "Can you take S8 and D4 over there with you? I have some things I need to do out tonight. I'll be glad to swing by later and pick them back up."

Text sent, awaiting her response...

She replied Dont start. I know what you are doing. Ask your parents. They are only 5 mins away. Or wait until tomorrow night.


Me:41 W:39 S:9 D:6 T:20 M:16
PA:8/22/18, BD:11/6/18
PA discovery & IHS:12/3/18, W moves:4/2/19
Rville:9/27/19, I give D docs:3/1/20
W home:4/5/20 (due to CV-19), W NC w/OM:4/13/20 6/1/20
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Originally Posted by curtis7
Originally Posted by curtis7
Originally Posted by Steve85

I'd say: "Can you take S8 and D4 over there with you? I have some things I need to do out tonight. I'll be glad to swing by later and pick them back up."

Text sent, awaiting her response...

She replied Dont start. I know what you are doing. Ask your parents. They are only 5 mins away. Or wait until tomorrow night.


H:"I will. Just wanted to give you the option first. Thanks for the quick response."


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Originally Posted by Ready2Change
Originally Posted by curtis7
Originally Posted by curtis7
Originally Posted by Steve85

I'd say: "Can you take S8 and D4 over there with you? I have some things I need to do out tonight. I'll be glad to swing by later and pick them back up."

Text sent, awaiting her response...

She replied Dont start. I know what you are doing. Ask your parents. They are only 5 mins away. Or wait until tomorrow night.


H:"I will. Just wanted to give you the option first. Thanks for the quick response."

Reply sent, thanks R2C!!
W replied: They just saw them last week!!


Me:41 W:39 S:9 D:6 T:20 M:16
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PA discovery & IHS:12/3/18, W moves:4/2/19
Rville:9/27/19, I give D docs:3/1/20
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Originally Posted by curtis7
Another concern I have if I rock the boat before she closes on her separation house April 1st and officially moves out is that shell go ballistic and fight to keep our primary house in D.

Trust me she will want the quickest way out and that will be her moving out.


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Originally Posted by curtis7
W replied: They just saw them last week!!


Do not respond to this one.


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Originally Posted by Ready2Change
She replied Dont start. I know what you are doing. Ask your parents. They are only 5 mins away. Or wait until tomorrow night.

I would say "yeah, and I know what your doing".


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Now you need to ask your parents.


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Originally Posted by Ready2Change
Originally Posted by curtis7
W replied: They just saw them last week!!

Do not respond to this one.

Didnt and wasnt planning to, she just sent another pulling the divorced BFF into the fray of deception and web of lies.
W: I just asked BFF. She said D 7 is sick and not a good idea.
Not responding to this one either.


Me:41 W:39 S:9 D:6 T:20 M:16
PA:8/22/18, BD:11/6/18
PA discovery & IHS:12/3/18, W moves:4/2/19
Rville:9/27/19, I give D docs:3/1/20
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Originally Posted by Ready2Change

Now you need to ask your parents.

Yep, now Ive got plans for tonight...


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PA discovery & IHS:12/3/18, W moves:4/2/19
Rville:9/27/19, I give D docs:3/1/20
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If needed, this works:

H:"Made arrangements with my parents. Don't worry about it any more."


The last part is important. She will start to think about the decision she just made. She will start to worry about it.


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