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[bhappy2]

Starting new thread

[bhappy2]

Link to old thread:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2802186&page=1

[bhappy2]

I have decided to remain friends on SM with W's family as I really dont want to be vindictive.

So much going on I have several parties this weekend, I have seriously cut down on my alcohol consumption bc it was cutting into my working out.

I recruited 5 friends to run/walk 2019 miles for the year. I have commited to running 1000 of those miles. We will excede 2019 bc even though one of the guys is not a runner he loves the idea and has started walking every day. I have been friends with him for 46 years... ever since kindergarten. Another friend is a runner but has not trained in a few years so he was all excited to get strted again, he even signed up for a 5K in May.

Two girls who we are friends with started walking and said they will contribute 250 miles each... they said they just needed the motivation. Good stuff going on....

Sunday is a 75th bithday party for my dad, should be great.

I believe NC is the best thing possible, I for one have become so much more clearer with each passing day.

[bhappy2]

Eyes wide open now.

Living the best life possible and i should probably reel it in a bit.

Running on average 20 miles a week and I now incorporated some light weights. I actually dont like doing the weights but S22 has me convinced its for the better.

I had a scheduled court date for Feb. 15th that has now been pushed back to March 1st for some reason. L called to say there was a change. She wants me to meet before we go in so we can go over some of the things I need. I have told her that I do not want to buy W out of the house and she can keep the dog. W now owes me for 6 months child support and she is refusing to pay.

S23 and S22 have asked how long before they have to move and I told the both to start looking now as i want this to proceed rather quickly at this point. I have a place for me to live rent free for as long as I need. I also have a room for D20 when she comes home from college, she has stated to me that she really doesnt want to sleep at MIL house.

GAL is going fantastic! Parties to book clubs to running... and just plain old sitting and watching some TV. I no longer yearn for R with W as I really dont think I can take her back... I am actually disgusted by the way she behaved. After talking with IC, IC thinks W is Narcissist... I have had my feeling about this and it really does point that way. As a matter of fact all her siblings are the same way. Its ok, its time to move on.

I will update more often as I have some free time.

PS the house I am moving into has a piano and the house is empty all day for me to practice... I really am looking forward to this.

[AnotherStander]

Sounds like you are doing great! Nice job with the GAL and positive attitude

[ovrrnbw]

After talking with IC, IC thinks W is Narcissist...

And when the W goes to a counselor they tell her the same stuff.

[bhappy2]

After talking with IC, IC thinks W is Narcissist...

And when the W goes to a counselor they tell her the same stuff.

Yes except there is no way she will go, she doesnt need any help...lol

[bhappy2]

Journaling:

Reading all these sitches, wow, this is really a crazy world. Dicarding people at the drop of a dime seems to be the norm. If you are newly BD'ed have no fear there is peace coming your way. How do I know bc I was you, couldnt believe what W had done, 3 months, 6 months, 12 months... freedom at last ... you will break free. I now have to take her to court to get D'ed and its a D that I want... I also will fight for everything I am entitled to. I will not be vindictive but I will not cave in and think that if i do she will see how nice I am and want to R. NO WAY, at this point she did me a favor.

Since BD I have made over 100 new friends... thats right 100... dont believe me, well then go join a social club and watch what happens. Activities, friendship, and no judgements!

Got a text about a week ago that the club needed a few more pints of blood to reach their goal. I went down and donated. It felt great helping someone who may need it. While I was sitting there I thought about if it was a child that was fighting cancer or maybe someone who needed a organ transplant. Either way it made me feel good that I could help.

Its Friday here and tonight is a big party celebrating Valentines Day. Really looking forward to this, prizes, drinks, and food. Good times.

I just cleaned two bathrooms and the kitchen and the house smells great. Once a gain getting things done is 180 for me and now is the norm. If I need to do something I do it no waiting.

Running is going great and I am once again dropping weight. The sauna after my runs is really cool.

Great site, Great advice, wish I followed it sooner.

[DejaVu6]

Wow Happy... Inspirational!! Thank you for posting such a positive update. 100 new friends is fantastic. What kind of social club did you join? I’ve made a few new friends. Most of my friends are married however so I feel like a third wheel much of the time which is kind of a drag. Hope you have a GREAT time at your party!!

[bhappy2]

Wow Happy... Inspirational!! Thank you for posting such a positive update. 100 new friends is fantastic. What kind of social club did you join? I’ve made a few new friends. Most of my friends are married however so I feel like a third wheel much of the time which is kind of a drag. Hope you have a GREAT time at your party!!

I joined an Elks Club. Very charitable organization. I wish I joined sooner. Thank you DejaVU, I will read your sitch..