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Yes I know.

My smashed heart is rebroken. The pain is awful. And I feel very selfish as it isn't my pain but K and her boys. It seems so indulgent to suffer this way.

I am hoping that my higher spirit sees a purpose for this, but we must be positive as the negativity won't help anyone.

Time to put away the tears and start to contribute to the healing process.

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Why do you feel selfish?

Empathy comes from people being able to relate anothers suffering to their own.

It is easy to imagine, that yeah it could have been you or a close loved one. . As a result, one might be more cautious, but also offer compassionate help from the heart. It makes you human to feel like that.

It is very scary how people treat each other.


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Hi Lady V , Jujub is 100% correct, you care and also your own sitch had the potential for a similar outcome.

My thoughts are with your friend. We don't live in a just world and some people's capacity for harming others is disgusting.

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I am so sorry V. How horrific. Quite honestly, I hope he goes to jail and is tortured there so he can get a taste of his own medicine.

I pray justice is served, your friend recovers and she and the kids are safe away from that monster.

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Thank you ju, rd and ginger.

K woke and saw her children today. It has lightened my soul.

Tonight I am meeting another member of our group who is in distress as her exh accused her, her mother and her father, sister and brother in law of sexually molesting her daughter. Yes all five of them together in a cult. Social services have put the daughter in care.

This is the man who was regularly drugging his wife, taking photos of her and selling them over the internet. He was charged and jailed for it.

You guys wouldn't believe what goes on in some households.

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(((((((((((((((((((((((V)))))))))))))))))))))))))

I am so sorry for all the turmoil, sweet lady. I will continue to keep you (and your friend) in my positive thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself and your friend. Much love from me and Molly!


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Hey V, hope you are well.

Horrible recent back story. No need for me to add to it but I am sure your friend has the right person by her side.

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I don't know why the world is just so unfathomable sometimes.

K is gradually getting better she will be relocated with her boys as no one wants to go back to the house, she can't afford the rent anyway so we are going to pack up into storage.

Thank you Surfer for your kind words.

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much love to you, K and the boys Lady V - xoxoxoxo still sending reiki your way !


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Thank you bttfly, that is so so comforting.

Dawn much hugs.

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